Post # 1
I am SO confused about how to meld everything together – granted, we’re not engaged yet, but we’ve been having a lot of discussions about the wedding.
He is Muslim, I was raised Christian but practice a mix of eastern religions. I wanted a church wedding because that is what my culture presents as a “wedding”. I do want to walk down the aisle!
However… it occurred to me that it’s possible we won’t find a pastor to marry us. So our other option would be to have someone marry us at the venue, and then also have our nikkah AND reception there.
Does this make sense? Or would it be “too much”? I wanted to have the “walk down the aisle” wedding in the early afternoon and then take photos – then have our nikkah in the evening at the reception site.
Any input is greatly appreciated!
Post # 3
Not sure how you feel about this, but depending on where you live, you could get a friend ordained online, and have the ceremony however you wish! This is assuming you could rent the church and not the associated pastor.. if you’re set on having it at a church.
I would also recommend checking out Unitarian Universalist churches, as they are often very accepting of alternative views.
If you and your soon-to-be-FI want it, then to me, it’s not “too much” 🙂
Post # 4
My fiance and I are having our nikah and reception in the same venue. I think a lot of couples choose to have the ceremony and reception in one place.
Post # 5
I’ve having 4 different weddings, and we don’t think that’s too much under the circumstances. If you want to be able to represent your different faith and cultural traditions, I think your plan is a good idea.^^
Post # 6
I think doing both is fine! I’m having my nikah first,a dinner that night and a day-time reception the weekend next so I get to throw the bouquet & take pictures!
I suggest u hv the nikah first,then walk down the aisle the next day cos having two-day ceremony is pretty much the norm.
Post # 7
well i always wanted to walk down the aisle ev en though i’m muslim!! My fiance is christian and sadly interfaith marriages do not get approved in my country!! crazy i know .. so now he gotta convert so we can get married !! well he already converted and we gettin married in the islamic way ( wich i dont really prefer) but im doin it for my family .. and me and him decided to do ” walk down the aisle” thing in our honey moon cause thats so beautiful ..
Post # 8
My husband is a Turkish Muslim and I was raised Christian. Luckily my home church is pretty progressive and big on interfaith education, so my home pastor was well-aquiainted with the idea of an interfaith ceremony, and happy to marry us (He also happened to know a bit of Turkish and had lived there for a year in his early adulthood–a rather rediculously happy coincidence!). We worked with him to create our own vows (that we both felt comfortable with), and my husband guided him in selecting readings on marriage from the Qur’an that would echo the readings he had selected from the bible.
We ended up picking an outdoor location (because we felt the beauty of the place was definitely Godly without being religiously-biased) and had my pastor wear a suit with a stole instead of all his robes (so my husband’s family wouldn’t feel uncomfortable).
And this isn’t exactly an interfaith thing, but I walked down the isle to Jesu the Joy of man’s desiring (a pretty common choice for church weddings) and we recessed to my husband’s favorite Turkish folk song! It was a nice way of infusing both of our backgrounds and cultures into our wedding ceremony.
Post # 9
You may look around to see if their is a Universalist Unitarian Church around. While originally affiliated with the Christian faith, the church has moved away from this brand. Instead, it has rejected a formal creed altogether in favor of embracing all paths to truth and general respect for all belief systems. (Ha. That sounds a lot more gushy than I meant). Anyway, most UU churches look very “churchy” (ours has an organ, aisle, and all) which would fulfill your desired location. UU ministers are usually very open to working with the couple to tie in whatever aspects of whatever faiths (or lack thereof) that the couple wants.