(Closed) must have, nice to have, don't waste your time: baby items

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 17
2183 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

Must haves:


moby wrap… This is how I can eat during the day. It also makes walks and outings so much easier.

backpack type diaper bag…. Might not be super stylish, but it’s darn convenient

pump… i started pumping super early on because I have an over supply, and I was so glad I had the pump and bottles and such on hand

recieving blankets… Tons! So much spit. haha

hooded towels and baby tub.

swing… This waa a lifesaver for us in the beginning, but we waited until after she was born to buy it, once we found she loved the swinging motion. You could try a mini swing, too. Cheaper and space-saver.

changing pad… We do all changes in her room, on the pad, even though she sleeps in our room.

bassinet… We love having her close by.

white noise app… I just use an old smart phone for this. 

Boppy… It’s great, but in a pinch, a normal pillow is just fine 

Nice to have:

diaper genie… We like and use it.

bottle warmer… Breast milk is naturally warm, so LO won’t take cold bottles. 

Play mat… We have one with lights and sounds, but I mostly just throw a blanket down or on the couch and we have tummy time. 

Bouncg seat… She doesn’t really love it, but it works sometimes. 

Don’t bother with:

nice clothes… As a winter newborn, she’s lived in jammies. they’re cute, but I only buy on sale. 

Toys… There’s nothing she needs to play with as a newborn. 

I’ll add that we have a fancy-shmancy Uppababy stroller…. And it was so worth the money. This puppy steers and turns so smoothly, it’s amazing. 

I’m sure I’ve forgotten some stuff. Oh, DD is 8 weeks old. 


Post # 18
854 posts
Busy bee

IMPORTANT: Wipes warmer! I hated waking my poor daughter up during middle of the night diaper change with a freezing cold wipe! 

Good monitor, Sophie the giraffe, wrap (baby hawk and hotsling for us), pump (I had an over supply so needed to pump after each nursing session), bibs (I did not know they drooled so much!), swing, gloves (my daughter scratched all the time), and a miracle blanket (to wrap them up)

NOT IMPORTANT: Diaper genie (that thing stunk after a month no matter what), baby tub (she hated it and her freaking out freaked me out so we used the bathroom sink), so many NB-3 month clothes because half never got to be worn.


Post # 19
1511 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Once as a baby shower gift I got my friend a new born rocker thing, so you can set the newborn down and it moved and vibrated a bit so they wouldn’t cry. I think she said she barely used it. For what it cost and the use she got out of it, it wasn’t worth it. Before you know it the baby will be able to scooch right off that thing.

ETA: Although looks like someone posted that it helps put the baby to sleep. I’d suggest a swing of some sort that can be used from newborn to when they become more active, to make sure they’ll stay put. 

Post # 20
971 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Must have: swing, Boba wrap, Brest Friend nursing pillow.

Don’t waste your money: baby bath tub, nice 0-3 clothes.

Post # 21
2183 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

Ooh, I totally forgot a must have- SwaddleMe sleepsack! Our daughter’s startle reflex is mostly in her arms, so the sleepsack is effective in counteracting it. It’s so much easier than using swaddle blankets! 

Post # 22
1463 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Must Have

– Carseat

– Sleeping space (cot, bassinet etc)

– Clothing

– Diapers


Anything else is optional!

Post # 23
482 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011



apart from the obvious




Buy a good ear thermometer- Spend the money. I use it all the time and my “baby” is 19 months old.


A swaddle- Swaddle swaddle swaddle- and watch the 5 s baby whisperer on youtube-


you dont have to buy the book.


for mum


a towel with velcro fastener for mum – you will be in the shower, on your own, and the baby will start screaming and then the front doorbell will ring. You need to be able to rely on your towel staying up-

A cushion for mum to sit on, if you give birth vaginally (stitches or no stitches) you will need something very forgiving to sit on!! YOu can buy ones with holes in the middle I kid you not.










Post # 24
295 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

View original reply
@Kemma:  +1! The only thing I would add to that is a sling (or Moby or whatever they call them now- it’s been a decade since I was in the baby game!). 

Post # 25
2777 posts
Sugar bee

I tried to live by the idea that if my grandma didn’t have it, then I didn’t. Obviously I was gifted things but I didn’t ever need/use them. Like a boppy, bottle warmer, washcloths (jus use your hands. A baby bath, baby monitor (unless you have a huge house)swing  etc


Post # 26
167 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Commenting to follow 🙂

Post # 27
1060 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Momma to be here and I have so much research to do on baby needs so thanks for this post!

Post # 28
1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Must haves for us were:

Rock n play, my baby slept in it by my bed for the first 2 months and then i’d take it downstairs for day time naps

pump if you are breastfeeding AND a HANDS FREE bra

5 oz bottles and brush to wash the bottles and a drying rack

blankets.. I don’t use receiving blankets I actually use larger fleece blankets, of course I gave birth in November so that could be part of the reason.. If I’d had LO in summer this could be different

LOTS OF sleep n play outfits, preferably ones with zippers

Pants with built in feet!!  Socks are such a PAIN in the rump

Diaper Genie

Changing station on the floor of the house you will spend most of your time


Car Seat

Burp cloths/spit rags

Baby Bath Tub

Play mat

sling or something to wear baby

plastic wipe holder for diaper bag so you dont’ have to take the entire pack of wipes with you

a blanket or car seat cover (depending on your weather)

Wastes for us were:


receiving blankets

vibrator chair (used only occasionally)

cute frilly outfits

baby mittens

baby hats (only used once or twice and many outfits now come with them??)

velcro swaddle bags/blankets

Post # 29
1132 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

God, it’s so funny to read these and see how every mommy/baby are so different! So many people’s “must haves” are on my “don’t waste your money” list and vice versa!!

Must haves:

-Swaddle Sacks/Blankets: My LO was a great sleeper right off the bat, and I 100% attribute it to swaddling. I used the sacks until he grew out of them and now I use A&A Swaddle Blankets. Then again, some babies HATE being swaddled, so it might not be a “must have” for everyone!

-Rock ‘n’ Play (or something for them to sleep in right next to your bed for the first few months): It is so comforting and convenient to have him close while he was sleeping. I also pull the Rock’n’play into the bathroom when I shower and put him there when I’m changing and I know he’s not going anywhere!

-Play/activity mat: (allows you to put them down for a few minutes to run to the bathroom, wash dishes, scarf a bowl of cereal)…etc. Now that DS is 4 months, it keeps him occupied for 10-20 minutes at a stretches, which is a lifetime for babies!

-Car Seat Mirror: Gives so much comfort when he’s in his rear-facing car seat and I can look and make sure he’s sleeping or quietly looking out the window and not slumped over and turning blue… Also, a sun shade for the window. I hated looking back there and seeing my 2 week old squinting because of the bright sun, and it kept him from getting overheated.

– Nose Frida: It’s the scariest thing in the world when your baby’s nose is plugged, because newborns breath exclusively through their noses. It sounds like they’re suffocating! Nose Frida is the BEST at clearing their sinuses without the possibility of damaging them by poking them (as with the bulb). Get one!!

-Pacifies if your baby will take them: Mine loves his paci, and if he gets fussy at all, just pupping it in his mouth soothes him and makes him instantly calm. My friend’s baby wouldn’t take it, and the only way she had to calm him was sticking her finger in his mouth. Not very convenient while driving, eating…etc. When your baby starts screaming in a crowded mall, you’ll thank me!


Don’t Waste your Time:

– Bobby/MBF Pillow: I found it combersome and it was never in the right room when I needed to nurse him. I just hold him in my arms and it works for us.

– Baby Sling/Carrier: Never used one and never really found a reason to. I don’t have a velcro baby so I don’t feel like he needs to be on me all the time, and I live in the suburbs where we drive everywhere

I’m sure I’ll think of more…..




Post # 30
2319 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Wow! These are some GREAT suggestions. I am pregnant now and it’s my first. I am a bit concerned and feeling overwhelmed as to what to get and what not to. We don’t have a lot of money to spend because I am not working right now. (Was laid off. I know, bad timing. Frown)

Post # 31
150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Commenting to follow-terrific thread!

The topic ‘must have, nice to have, don't waste your time: baby items’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors