- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2015
We’ve chosen to do a ‘first look’ and have our bridal portraits taken before the ceremony. Part of our decision was based on our dislike of a 2+ hour break for our guests between the ceremony & reception – as guests of weddings we’ve never enjoyed this part of the day…
Our venue will require 45 minutes after the ceremony to convert the space for dinner, during which time we’ve planned for bridal party/flower girl photos and perhaps even a couple moments to ourselves after we’ve said our vows 🙂 As it stands, this schedule doesn’t leave much time for family portraits. I’d rather have candid shots of our family & friends taken during the reception, my fiance isn’t fussed with all the photography and my immediate family has the same laid-back approach as we do when it comes to our wedding.
My only concern is that my future in-laws, who are not contributing a cent to our wedding, have requested formal portraits with extended family members. I’m not sure when we’d schedule these in given we would rather spend the time with our guests during the reception than have a million pictures taken. I suggested to my FMIL that I could have the photographers pull us aside for a few moments during the reception if she wanted to have posed shots taken, but as this is not traditional, she is not open to the idea.
I know that we could rearrange the schedule and allow for more time after the ceremony for pictures with my future in-laws, but as they haven’t shown any interest in our wedding and have put down any ideas we’ve discussed with them, I don’t feel inclined to have pictures with them…
I realize this comes off as harsh, but there is a lot of negative history here (over 8 years!), which my fiance and I have attempted many times to turn around despite the way they’ve treated us…I guess I’m just tired of them and the temper tantrums my FMIL throws when she doesn’t get her way. Are we completely selfish for not wanting formal family portraits taken on our wedding day?