(Closed) Must I invite ALL the girls to the shower?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

No, bridal showers are for close friends and family. If you want invite your fmil, fsil but I wouldnt’ invite all the women from his family.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

No way! You can invite whoever you want. I would definitely include the people you know from his side but forget about the others!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

“Showers are intimate gatherings for people you know very well”-Emily Post.

I don’t think mine would have been as much fun with “strangers” there. 🙂

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m inviting all the women from the wedding to the shower but then again we are having an intimate wedding in the first place so I am going to know everyone. I am not inviting FI’s mother. We don’t get along and a bridal shower is really for the Bride. I want people around me that really love and support me. Keep that in mind when creating your guest list for the bridal shower.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You don’t have to invite them.  I had planned to invite everyone because I thought it’d be nice to get people together but I don’t really know anyone on his side (except for immediate family) very well.  He told me I could just invite my side and that’s what I decided to do.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@couawilou:  Nope. I’m having 2 showers and did not invite nearly all the women on the wedding guest list. I think that’s an old school thing that people used to do. When we got engaged, Future Mother-In-Law asked if I was going to do that because that’s what they did when she and her sister got married 30 years ago. But they also had 1/3 of the people at their wedding that we are. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wanted a smaller shower but ended up having to invite all the women invited to the wedding.  I’m not happy about it but it’s better that fighting with Future Mother-In-Law.  It’s going to be soo awkward to open presents from people I’ve never met!  

If Fiance your doesn’t care you should skip them and just invite who you want there..

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would say no. I”ve been invited to a few showers for weddings where my Fiance is casually friends with the groom, but I may not even be able to pick the bride out of a crowd. I always RSVP no for those. To me, a shower is an intimate gathering for the people who know you best.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i agree that you don’t have to invite everyone to your shower. If you do, chances are that many of the women who you don’t know very well may decline anyways. That’s what happened to me. I had about 40 ladies on my shower invite list but only my close friends and family came. It was perfect.

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