(Closed) Must I notate "Nuptial Mass" on invites?

posted 5 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Autumnsnow:  I’ve been to several full mass weddings. Personally, I’m not catholic, but I always prepare for a full mass when I know i’m going to a catholic ceremony. In all of the ceremonies that I’ve been to, not one has put “nuptial mass” on the invite. If you don’t like it, don’t put it. Ultimately it’s up to you, but I don’t think people will dip out on the ceremony if you put it.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think it’s the proper way of doing it, but I’ve never actually seen it on an invitatation and I’ve been to tons of full mass weddings. Maybe it’s a geographical thing?

Mine doesn’t say it – but in my circle, if you are invited to a wedding at a RC church it’s assumed to be a mass.

Are a lot of your guests non-Catholic? Because I’m not sure why you think they wouldn’t attend if they knew it was a mass. That’s kind of messed up – on their part. I just don’t see the big deal. I’d go to an hour long Buddhist (or whatever) ceremony if it meant supporting my friend/family member.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Autumnsnow:  I think people do that so guests know it’s mass and not just a wedding ceremony. You don’t HAVE TO… generally I prepare for a Mass if it’s a Catholic ceremony, but people like to know if it’s going to be longer and if they can eat before or need to fast. 

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I looked into the Catholic etiquette when I started planning (FI is Catholic, and we are having a Catholic wedding without mass), but I never heard of putting mass/no mass on the invitation.

However, mass only adds an extra 10 or so minutes anyway, so if I were a guest then I wouldn’t be put off because of that.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

if the ceremony is at a catholic church most people will figure it out…. its a 50/50 shot there’s mass or not, kinda like how you prepare for a reception you dont know if it’s a cash bar or open bar? lol. Most of your close friends and family will probably know what it is via conversations/info that gets around word of mouth… the ones who wont know are people your probably not too close with/distant relatives, family friends…so who cares 🙂

 

 

 

I didnt put it on mine 

 

 

 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

We noted that it was a Nuptial Mass on ours, so that people would know it wasn’t going to be a quick service. Most of our guests were not Catholic, and have only heard about how long a Mass is, so we thought they’d appreciate the warning 😉  We had several friends who actually did a little internet research to see what was involved, so that was nice. It helped them understand a little better.

 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Autumnsnow:  I’m Catholic and I’ve been to a lot of weddings, and I’d say a majority of them did not have it on the invite. But, like other PP’s said, I always prepare for full mass when I go to a wedding that is at a Catholic church. I’ve never been mad to show up to a Catholic ceremony to find out that it is full mass and we weren’t told on the invite. But of course, I’m Catholic, so full mass doesn’t bother me in the least. I don’t see why it should matter whether it’s a full mass or not, it’s not like people will make their decision to attend based on that information. I would hope they wouldn’t, at least, especially since a Catholic wedding without a full mass is not that much shorter than one with full mass. Probably a 10-15 minute difference or so

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yikes, if someone were to make their decision to not attend the ceremony based on knowing it was a full Mass, I’d be GLAD they weren’t there! 🙁

Like others have said, while not 100% necessary, it is a helpful bit of information for your guests- the Catholics can prepare for Communion, and the non-Catholics can prepare for a longer ceremony (like maybe eat a snack beforehand or something, knowing they might be there awhile!)

I don’t agree the Mass “only” adds 10 minutes… I’d say it’s more like 20 or even 30! I non-Mass will be like 25-35 minutes, and I have just about never seen a Mass to be much less than an hour – the priest would really have to be zipping through everything! (It’s rare for a regular Sunday Mass to be less than 55 minutes, and the wedding adds a lot – vows, extra prayers, extra processionals, probably starting 5-10 minutes late, etc.)

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Our wedding clocked in at 53 minutes, full Mass. And I agree with PP red_rose– Catholics might appreciate knowing it’s a Mass so that they can prepare for Communion.

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