Post # 1
My answer to the question is–it would be nice if you can help it!
I feel weird when people tell me or even my FH that the wedding is all about the bride. There’s the idea of the bridezilla and then “giving th bride away” so…who really has power here?! I digress. So, in my image of brides entering the ceremony, it’s a huge deal with music and standing up and such…ususally from a set of doors. Right?
I know this has been asked before but…at my outdoor ceremony, my guests may see me for more than the time it takes for me to hit the back of the aisle to the altar.
Does that create unnecessary suspense? How do you feel about that?
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
This happened to me, a little unexpectedly! We had bad weather for the wedding so we had to take photos under an awning in front of the venue, ensuring that every single guest saw me before the ceremony…
But walking down the aisle was still such a magical moment, I don’t think anything was taken away by being seen beforehand…Same goes for the first look, I don’t think we lost any of the specialness by seeing each other before the walk down the aisle!
Post # 4
It’s really a personal choice I think. Tradition is to hide out from your guests until your walk down the aisle. However, as with most traditions reality is that you should do whatever makes you comfortable. And if it means a few guests seeing you before your grand entrance, then so be it. 🙂
Post # 5
If you want to do this, definitely find a way!
We won’t be – darn it, my guests are flying in from all over the country for our wedding, and I want to spend every moment with them! And I want to introduce all of them to my finace/husband, whether before or after the ceremony!
I fully plan to greet everyone as they come in and help them find the chapel, which is basically in a maze-like building. 🙂
Post # 6
I wasn’t very hidden, and I was ok with it. It was outdoors and while there was a building close enough, I chose to stand outside. I’m actually glad I did b/c I got to see my wedding party walking down the aisle too. I was far away enough that people weren’t paying too much attention to me.
Post # 7
@Encore: Tradition v. reality! 🙂
Post # 8
I have only now realized that our reception room is a great place for a ceremony! I have seen photos of a ceremony in there but I didn’t like the idea of a ceremony in there until I realized that I just didn’t like the wall that faced at that certain ceremony 😛 haha Anyways, I am trying to use that room as the ceremony site and have the room flipped or dinner during the cocktail hour which would be so easy due to the setup of our venue.
FH doesn’t seem to excited about the idea of the ceremony on that room–even though it would be perfect for that traditional view of the bride walking down the aisle from a set of doors.
I won’t push it with FH though. I do feel more comfortable with your responses about guests seeing me before I hit the aisle. 🙂
Post # 9
when my fiances sister got married the husband to be hid in the registry room. All of the guests arrived and we all saw her (apart 4rom her hubby 2 be) before the ceremony. It took absolutely nothing away from the ceremony and everybody still welled up a little when she entered!! Personally I wouldnt let any guests see me before the ceremony,purely because I want to see everyones faces when I enter the room lol. xx
Post # 10
I think that part of the big reveal idea is that women are normally not interested in being fully ready before the processional… (Can you say potty break?) The groomsmen often have a ushering job prior to the ceremony, so sometimes the groom hangs out at the back of the church because his guys are there… and other times he just stays with the best man and his family out of sight. I think that as a bride. I really wouldn’t want to be chit chatting prior to the big moment and so hiding out has it’s appeal to me. But if you want to see and be seen that’s fine too… after all it’s your celebration.
Post # 11
I think this is a matter of personal choice. I am more a pragmatic realist than a traditionalist so with my wedding outdoors, my guests will probably see me and my fiance’ as we take our first-look and couple pictures. I feel that since we know everyone on our guest list and they have all seen me dressed up in one form or another, it’ll be pretty much the same thing, except I’ll we wearing an ivory gown.
Besides, I spent beacoup money on my dress, I want people to see me in it, before, after, or during the wedding! HAHA!
Post # 12
@baldor1: haha love it: “Besides, I spent beacoup money on my dress, I want people to see me in it, before, after, or during the wedding! HAHA!”
Post # 13
I think it’s your day and you should do what you want! There are not rules.
Post # 14
Here’s my situation:
I plan on being hidden when guests start boarding (we’re getting married on a yacht). But we are doing some “first look” pictures on the yacht prior to the guests boarding, so if they happen to see us while we’re finishing up some pictures and they’re waiting to board the yacht, I won’t be upset.
I just don’t want to do the chit-chat thing or the “Thank you so much for coming” thing prior to the ceremony– I’d rather wait until the ceremony is over, FH & I are married, and then we can start the celebration/ mingling with our guests. 🙂
Post # 15
My plan to stay out of sight before the wedding fell through, and in retrospect was probably bound for failure.
We were at a show garden with one ticket booth. I had assumed everybody would get their tickets, and go straight to the ceremony site. NOPE. They got their tickets and mingled there forever. I had to go through the same entrance, and then walk up with everybody who happened to be there, and then stop part way up the path, and anybody who came up behind passed me on the way too.
Then I had probably a good 100 metres to walk from my “hiding in the bushes”spot fully visible to the top of the aisle.
I didn’t really have too much problem with it. The only downside, is I didn’t get to see my husband’s facial expression the first time he saw me, because I was too far away.
Post # 16
Where we had to line up for the processional, we could be seen. It was actually nice to say “hi” to a few of my favorite people prior to the ceremony – it gave us a chance to talk to more people, and filled the waiting time in a bit. We were enough off the path that it didn’t create a scene, and not everyone stopped. It was nice. But then again, I am very non-traditional, and my Fiance and I walked down the aisle together. It’s not for everyone!