Post # 1
Hi, long time lurker, but I finally got around to getting an account. I dont know if this is the correct forum for this post, but here ya go.
The bf and I have been together about 3 1/2 years and we’re at the almost engaged/looking for rings/waiting and waiting stage. we have a plan to go ring shopping, and he says he has a plan to propose (yay!). Last night, he suggested that we both propose to each other and I absolutely love the idea. I think it would be a very sweet gesture that we’re both ready for the next step in our relationship, and as a way to show him that I love him as much as he loves me. Am I crazy?
I know this idea isn’t for everyone, but I think it’s the right decision for us.
But now what? Right now, I’m thinking of letting him propose to me first, and then having my own proposal for him soon after that, but I have no idea how to do it/where to even start. what do I get him? he doesn’t want an engagement ring. I’m tempted to buy him an x-box, but I’m not sure how to hide something that big in our apartment. how do you plan for a proposal when you dont even know when it’ll happen? I’d love to hear if anyone has ever done something similar to this and how they’ve managed to do it.
Post # 3
@alejandria: I think this is a great idea. After all, it’s a mutual decision to get married, no matter who asks first! I do not have any experience with mutual proposals to offer, but I do know all about being engaged to a video gamer. If you get him an Xbox, could you leave it at a friend/relative’s place, and just wrap up one of the controllers? Or maybe put one of those 10 or 20-dollar gift cards you can use for downloadable Xbox content into a card and write that the best is yet to come? Those should be easy enough to hide.
Post # 4
Me and my Fiance sort of took turns, he asked me to marry him and I said yes, and he promised he’d get me a ring eventually. A few months later I decided I want to get him a ring too so I re-proposed to him with it. Then a few more months later he got me a ring. But I consider the first time he asked me to be when we got engaged
Post # 5
It’s not a proposal on my part, but I plan on getting my Boyfriend or Best Friend a ring he’s been wanting (it’s silly, it’s a Green Lantern ring) for a while for our upcoming anniversary month (never picked a day). It might be a good spark to lead to maybe discussing a ring for my hand… or it might just be like the watches I’ve gotten him O_o
Men seem to like watches – it’s almost the only ‘jwelry’ they get to wear. I’ve gotten my SO a couple, and had one engraved with a line from a shared favorite movie a few years back.
I like the idea of a complimentary gift to go along with the proposal – but it’ so hard since guys want it to be a surprise, and in your case you can’t lug around an Xbox, or even just a controller in your purse indefinietly to each nice dinner along. 😛
Whatever you decide, I’m sure he’ll appreciate it. Maybe you should make celebratory engagement chicken AFTER he does it, and serve the controller ont he table?