(Closed) My $10K wedding, became a $15K wedding, and now I’m at $24K It’s one day!

posted 9 years ago in Money
Post # 18
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46 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m glad you have the flexibility and income to make the wedding of our dreams a reality. If you can afford to pay for all the small details that will make it the wedding of your dreams, then go for it. But just know that you can actually keep the wedding costs if you decide to do so. I’m having a 120 person wedding ceremony and reception for $10K in Los Angeles. One thing that kept costs down was having it a historical Hacienda style restaurant. The other thing was doing a lot of DIY.

Post # 19
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10849 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We had a pretty “bring everything yourself” venue too and we thought it would be so much cheaper and we’d be laughing…. Ya…. Not so much. It literally cost twice as much as getting a big fancy hotel ballroom. Ugh. I loved everything about our wedding, but the cost makes me wince when I think about it still. I feel your pain sister. I had 150 people and I’m pretty sure we ended up over $50k, so you’re doing pretty good by my books (and no, we didn’t go into debt either). Keep fighting the good fight hon! My biggest recommendation for saving some money is to take a weekend trip to Montreal and buy all your beer and hard liquor there. It’s literally half the price and only slightly illegal according to your liquor license 😉

Post # 20
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Busy Beekeeper

i am the same way. I am doing a destination wedding, so i thought – all inclusive trip for 2 people, plus a wedding package?  should be about 5K!  that was seriously my first budget plan.  however, i soon realized how un-realistic it was since i didn’t factor in, um, my dress or photographer!  and those were 2 of the most important things to me.  then there were tons of other things, so i decided 10K was good and reasonable and seriously, i could have done it for 10K. but then i splurged here and there and in the end, i don’t regret anything and total costs for everything, including DIY, is about $14K.  And althought it also makes me wince, i feel better when i tell myself its not just ONE day. that includes 10 nights in Jamaica for 2 people, and our flights.  but really, more than half of it is for one day (actually for 6 hours!).

Post # 24
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2714 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@RingPup: I didn’t read all the responses… just your original post and I want to let you know that we have 180 guests too and our wedding is looking to be around $35k – $40k. EEEEEPP!! I feel your pain!!!

Post # 25
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211 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I am having the same problem 🙁 Our originally budget was $8000 and 65 people, now its more like $13,000 at 85 people. Fairly sure it will still go up a bit.

Post # 26
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633 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Trust me. Our original budget was $25,000 for 80 guests. And now it is up to almost $35,000. For 80 guests! We are doing a Destination Wedding wedding and the planner we want to use is very expensive, the venue we fell in love with is expensive, everything is expensive. Sure, we could cut, but I just feel like people are traveling SO far to be with us, I want it to be a memorable, beautiful, once in a lifetime event for them and us. But it sucks though!

Post # 27
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52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Ah!! So I’m not alone!!! Good to hear other brides in the same boat :-/ I think your budget is quite reasonable, and sounds like you are going to have a great wedding for waht you are spending. I’m jealous, in fact!

When I got engaged I thought I’d have a budget wedding. HA! I thought 20,000 sounded a bit high for an “average wedding” but as I started planning it was clear I definitely wouldn’t be under that. A good married friend told me, whatever you think you’re going to spend on your wedding, double it. That is how much you will end up spending. And I can see it’s true, not just for me!

I am now looking at 35k. hideous, I know. I am kind of ashamed but I live in a VERY expensive city. We are incredibly lucky to have my divorced parents splitting about 70% of the costs, FI’s parents are covering about 15% and we are paying the remaining 15%. So I know I shouldn’t be complaining but it makes me SICK to think of what my parents are spending, what I am ASKING them to spend. Luckily they are both in good situations financially, but STILL it makes me feel so guilty asking them.

My advice for brides at the beginning of their planning: do your math in advance! And be as realistic (allow for at least 20% more than you think you will spend) and add everything up, especially if you are paying all yourself, but especially if you don’t want to have a conversation like I had last night, when I had to break it to my mom just EXACTLY how much I need from her. The worst part? It’s not dollars, but Euros, and the dollar is so low right now. So for every 3000 dollars she sends me, I receive 2000 euros. Oh, God, just writing about this makes my stomach churcn!

Ah well, what is done is done, it’s going to be an amazing day, I just hope I can get over the guilt! Someone please tell me I’m not a greedy horrible person!

Post # 28
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575 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Yikes, my budgets was originally $15K, but your prices seem comparable if not cheaper to mine, although I do not have a coordinator.  I’m about to go add my stuff up again!!

This wedding stuff is crazy expensive for “one day” but I’m sure it will be worth it!

 

 

Post # 29
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370 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

oh goodness!! we’re still in the pre engagement tenative planning stage (my SO wanted to make sure it was something we could really afford before we made it official to avoid the 5 year engagement) and have considered an outdoor venue. We did find one that has a huge pavilion (dozens of nice old wooden picnic benches), and provides rest rooms, and “choice of 2 domestic beers” (a little red necky, sure, but I’ll take beer if it’s included!) in the per person price (we’re allowed to bring wine and liquor, no corking fee, no licence required.) Still, even with all of that included, we started at 8k, and once I started to add things (flowers, photographer, stationary, supplies for diy projects) it’s really looking more like 12-14. it’s so crazy how 5-10 grand can just mount that quickly!! One of my sisters SWEARS her wedding five years ago was under 3 grand. I was there, it was lovely, and I’m totally calling BS!!

Post # 30
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ouch, i feel you. I will say though, I could already see at least 1,000 that you could cut… even more if the bar was altered. I had about the same amount of guests and because we provided all the alcohol our bill was about 700…. 

Post # 31
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Bumble Beekeeper

Seriously, the ONLY reasons we were able to do our wedding for $10k was friendors and a small guest list. Fo sho. Honestly, I should probably say that the only reason was pure dumb luck. lol. We got some amazing deals on our vendors and such and ended up with a lot of things we shouldn’t have. I think that every time the venue coordinator re-wrote our contract, she forgot to add in another fee until at the end we only had to pay food and liquor. I don’t know how that happened, but it did.

Nothing your doing seems that unreasonable, for real, although there are definitely some areas where you could cut. I had some serious sticker shock too. I about peed myself when I started looking at invitations. I had no concept of how freaking expensive wedding stuff it when I started out.

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