Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
So I just had my first official bridezilla roar, and I dont feel bad about it or that it was rash/unreasonable.
I’m a celiac and I have 5 other celiacs plus 5 vegetarians coming to my wedding at Disney. We expect 45-60 heads. As a celiac I see beautiful cakes that I cant eat :(. I go to weddings and other events often I cant eat. So food is a huge deal breaker to me. Cake is an even bigger one because I LOVE CAKE!. I run a lot so I can eat cake! Yes I love cake.
When I signed my contract with the Mouse we had a firm understanding cake and food were massive issues for me. My hubs (then fiance) knew that the food issue was making me crazy and that is why we signed with disney. Last fall when we chose to move our celebration wedding to this fall rather than do it dead of winter the mouse had worked out a plan to do the cake of almost my dreams with Girlfriend fondant, cake made in house, and fillings. Now I have to have my rounds brought in from a vegan bakery which makes tasty cakes but you can tell they are Girlfriend where as the cakes on property you cant. They wont tell me which fillings I can or cannot have. The final straw no fondant. They want to A) Bring in a gluten cake, and Girlfriend cupcakes for those with allergies, or B) make a faux cake and cut one in the back. The issue with A is I dont want any gluten at my wedding. Food is an emotional issue for me I dont want to get sick at my wedding, or make my closest family/friends with the same issue sick. The issue with B is cost and I dont like the presentation issue.
Needless to say to top it off we now dont get to speak to a chef directly anymore at our planning phone con. I am distressed and really upset. None of this was an issue last fall. I sent back a not so pleasant email, and I’m considering calling in the morning requesting another planner. I truly do believe it is this planner because we actually had 2 last fall because one left the company and both of them called the chefs and had accomodations ready to go for our wedding. Food and cake is a deal breaker for me and a very emotional topic. I’m so upset right now, I cried a number of times looking at venues because of this it was the most important aspect of my wedding. I really dont know what to do. I really cant see a policy change that rapid, so should I request a different planner at this point? There are other issues they’ve danced around too like floral, and getting anything out of them is like pulling teeth. I feel black listed.
Post # 2
I don’t have any suggestions, just sympathy(I have celiac and food allergies). You deserve to be safe, especially on your wedding day.
Post # 3
As someone with food allergies, I actually think that bringing the cake in from a specific vendor that handles Girlfriend cakes is a good idea. Cross contamination is a bitch. Personally, I’d look at other area bakeries. Nothing against vegans, but you don’t need a vegan cake. You said your guests were vegetarian, not vegan. If you go with a Girlfriend cake made with eggs and butter, you’ll have a MUCH better tasting product. Everyone will be happy and you’ll be safe.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
MariContrary: Disney is pretty strict about bringing vendors in. The good news is my rant made them pull my file from last fall. They are going to epcot tomorrow to find out what was discussed we will see where this goes. The agreement was they would do the cake at like 3 or 4 am before the bakery opened originally, and bake the cake the night before after the kitchen was cleaned in a specific area. The cakes made on property are much more moist than the vegan ones which is my preference.
fluffysweet: The biggest issue is food is extremely emotional when you have one of these issues. Plus I have to consider 5 other celiacs in the process and I know exactly how big of a deal this is for them. I just want my wedding day to be a day where I feel like a normal human, not worried about will this make me sick how close is that real bread. I want a beautiful cake that I can eat 🙁
Post # 5
dewingedpixie: That’s so frustrating! It’s one thing for them to say “no, we cant accomodate that” at the very beginning, but to have it all change half-way through is unacceptable. I hope their review of your file will get things back on track for you. If not, what I’d do is make a list of your “must-haves” and the things you were promised, and present them with it. If they can’t provide you with the services you were promised, find someone else who can!
Post # 6
dewingedpixie: I just wanted to say one thing here; I don’t think you’re being a bridezilla at all. Your concern is very legitimate, and I hope it gets worked out soon 🙂
Post # 7
This is absolutely not a bridezilla rant, this is a 100% legitimate concern. This is your special day, your day to celebrate a lifetime of happiness. HAPPINESS. Happiness means a comfortable stomach, feeling safe and secure enough to eat whatever you see on the plate. You have an illness and a sensitivity, yes, but that doesn’t mean you should be held back from any of the joys that stereotypically come with a wedding.
My mother is Girlfriend for health issues, and her reaction isn’t nearly as bad as a celiac reaction, but it’s terrible to see her noticeably uncomfortable. If this is a condition of your signing on with Mouse for a wedding, then you need to remind them of that. You would not be there if they hadn’t guaranteed you accommodations for your eating issues, and now you’re fighting to have that back. Totally reasonable.
Honestly, the first bridezilla rant I’ve had was the waterproof tea lights for the centerpieces at my wedding were a blue-white light instead of a gold-white light, and I couldn’t stand the blue-white lights not matching with the gold-white light of the fairy lights already in place at the venue 😛 See, you could be a REAL bridezilla!
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
Thank you everyone. My SO told me its not bridezilla either. He says I deserve to have a day where I actually get to eat the pretty cake, and I also dont have to worry is the maid of honor or my mom going to get sick too. He has seen many occasions where I cant eat and knows I have real concerns for other people I’m feeding as well because of that. I just want for one day to not worry about food and feel normal, and have my guests feel that way too. Worst is my celiac has some pretty rare complications that make a contamination a really big concern it could derail treatments I have for other problems that are combined with this. My husband and my mom are both pretty perterbed over this because one thing we were told was a Girlfriend cake would be easily accomodated, and 6 months ago we had made great strides to make that happen. It looks like they are trying to rectify the situation though which makes me happy. I really just want a pretty cake that I can share and eat that tastes like a real cake :/. I’ve had tastey Girlfriend cakes but not all of them would I share due to the differences, and most were not pretty by any means.
Post # 9
dewingedpixie: Agreed, you are not a bridezilla for being persistant with this issue. I have severe food allergies and would NOT be happy about planners/venues being blase about it!