Post # 1
I never thought that I would be creating an alter ego in order to post to the ‘Bee but here it goes. Due to unforseen circumstances my wedding was postponed last year. HUGE disappointment but what can you do right? You keep it moving. So 2010 was supposed to be our year of happiness and joy…welll not so much.
In January, my UNCLE passed away (dad’s brother). I was EXTREMELY close to this uncle as he and my dad worked at the same company and lived within a few miles of each other. We literally saw him EVERY day up until they both retired. After they retired we saw him every OTHER day..since he had to pass our house to get to the store.
In February, my FI’s MOTHER passed away unexpectedly. She had a massive stroke and was gone within 24 hours. He only has 1 sibling and they were a VERY close knit family. His heart is broken into a million pieces b/c his mother was also one of his closest friends.
In March, my GRANDMOTHER (mom’s mom)passed away. She was my last surviving grandparent. My mom was/is still upset about everything.
So…here it is April and Fiance and I are sort of floundering. We are both a little lost and even though we are going through the motions of career and all that…I don’t think our hearts are in it. I am about to put my wedding dress etc. up for sale b/c I just don’t care all that much about weddings anymore. I am trying to be supportive of my Fiance and my parents but honestly, I am just tired, wiped out, drained…emotionally and physically.
I just need some positive vibes to keep me motivated until I can take some time off from work to go take care of me.
Post # 3
I’m so sorry. You two have been through a really tough time. I don’t really have any words of wisdom to help you through this but just lean on the familiies that you have to get through this. That is what family is for, to help each other through the tough times.
Post # 4
First, BIG HUG!
It sounds like you are going through the hardest period EVER! And I know it’s hard to see the light when everything is so dark but, I promise, the light is there.
Take some time to reconnect as a couple and as partners. Do something just for you two. Even just sleeping in and holding each other will help you feel the emotional connection I am sure you are both CRAVING at this point.
It will all work out and it will all get better. And remember, you don’t need a wedding to be married. If you are still committed to your relationship, you can committ to each other at the JP/City Hall, celebrate with a small dinner or nothing at all. Just the two of you is enough.
POSITIVE VIBES COMING TO YOU!
Post # 5
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I don’t blame you for not being much into the wedding idea anymore. You definately need some time to deal with all this and decide how & when you all want to approach getting married. Do you think at this point it would be easier to get married at the courthouse? Or do you think deep down, that after awhile you would regret selling your dress and not having an actual wedding? Whatever you decide I wish you the best and my heart goes out to you & your family & your Fiance during this rough time 🙁
Definately stick around on the bee though. We’re a great support & distraction too!
Post # 6
I’m really sorry! Would eloping with your closest relatives and taking a big vacation with the extra money that would have gone to the event help? Maybe take a vacation before you get married to spend time w/ your fiance to recoup. It seems you and your fiance need some rest and lot of love!
Post # 7
Thanks hive…I knew that I could count on you guys to send some positive vibes my way. I have been avoiding the whole “wedding” conversation to be honest. I don’t really want a wedding now and I am sure my Fiance doesn’t either. One of the main reasons we were having a wedding in the first place is for his mom…was for his mom. FI’s parents got married at the JOP and Fiance and his first wife did as well. It meant a lot to his parents just knowing that there would be some type of ceremony. I just don’t know at this point….but I will continue to come to the hive in either case. Thanks again for your kind words, hugs, and encouragement.