- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
First, I am sorry you’re dealing with this.
Second, I agree with the troublesome tots blog… I got a great deal of information on there and found it to be really helpful.
Here’s what we did to fix some of our bad habits during her 9mo sleep regression:
-bedtime routine. We do the same routine, every night, and have done the same routine with very little variation since she was born.
Our routine starts after dinner & a bottle (or sippy cup of milk… still working on that one!) DD is almost a year now, so we are on cow’s milk. Anyway, around 6:45ish we head up to the bath, get dressed in pajamas, and I hold her for a few minutes, just snuggling. I put her down completely awake in her crib with a blanket-toy thing (we call it a lovey). I sit in her room and read her a poem or a short story or a chapter from a book. I turn on her Homedics SoundSpa and turn off her light, I tell her I love her and I’ll see her in the morning, and I walk out. I leave the door open just a crack so I can peek in without having to open the door.
*it took a while to transition from putting her down asleep, to drowsy, to awake. During this time of transition she got 5 new teeth, had an ear infection, and had a cold. It was a bumpy road!
-Soothing in intervals. At first, we would let her cry for no more than 5 minutes before going in to soothe her. After 5 minutes of crying (which feels like 5 hours) I (or my DH) would go in, lay her back down, rub her back or her belly, say ‘shush shush shush’ a few times, then walk away.
We repeated this every 5 minutes for the first night, every 10 minutes the second night (and maybe the third, I don’t remember). By the following week we stretched it gradually to about 20 minutes. Honestly though, after about 3 or 4 days she was going to sleep on her own within about 15 minutes. She did wake overnight but only briefly and she was able to soothe herself back to sleep without us going in at all.
-Consistency. If the current sleep issues are a problem for BOTH you and your DH, then it’s time to make changes. If you aren’t ready for CIO, then CIO won’t work for you. You both have to be on the same page, you both have to be committed to consistency. If you try this for a few days and abandon it, then it isn’t going to help. Since your baby is not a great sleeper to begin with, it will probably take longer for you to break these habits. Our DD was at least at one point a good sleeper. We just let ourselves fall into some bad habits because it made it easier in the short run. Once we did this CIO-lite approach it really broke those habits for us, and for her.
Good luck, I really hope you find something that works for you and your baby soon!