(Closed) My adviser made me feel discouraged and now I'm second guessing my major

posted 7 years ago in College
  • poll: What should I do?

    Switch to a B.A. Hey, a degree is a degree, and I'm sure you'll find SOME job out there...

    Stick with the B.S.! Don't give up, even if it takes you 6 years!!

    Other - I'll explain in the comments

  • Post # 47
    13 posts
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Also, I think that if you can, try to take as many pre-req transferrable classes at a community college I reccomend this because you can save tons of $$ 

    Post # 48
    2854 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    Just wanted to say that my BFF is an Rehearsal Dinner and she loves it! I also know someone about your age who is back in school for her BS in nutrition.  It’s a second bachelor’s for her, and her first was totally unrelated. She’s had to take all the pre reqs too, and she’s doing great! So stick with it!

    Post # 49
    9829 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’d stick with what you want to do. As another poster said, email the professors to see if there is a waitlist of some sort. At my school, you could go speak to the teacher if the class was full online and often times they would sign you into the class. Most people were too lazy to hunt the teacher down so I managed to get signed into tons of classes. I think there was only 1 teacher that said no.

    Post # 50
    1285 posts
    Bumble bee

    I agree with your Fiance…Do what YOU want. Not what your advisor wants.

    and btw, it’s never too late to go to school…i just turned 39 and just enrolled back to college for my bachelor’s degree. 


    Post # 51
    9916 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Seriously, SERIOUSLY,  get a different advisor.  It’s SO important!!  Good luck.

    Post # 52
    6112 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @LadyMoriarty:  (((HUGS!)))

    First of all, life is going to throw you a lot more tougher things!  Don’t let this one adivser bring you down.  Have more confidence in yourself.  Be your own #1 cheerleader!  Yes, a BA in Liberal Arts is not going to get you something really.  If you really really want a degree in nutrition, then go get it.  Don’t take an easy way out of school.  It’s supposed to be hard.

    FWIW, I went back to get a Master’s in Engineering when I was ages 31-36 (I’m 37 now).  I had NO engineering background, I practically did half a bacherlor’s before I could apply to grad school.  As in started with Calc I.  I have never felt more dumb in my whole life doing math classes 15 years after trig, every problem I did sitting in front of tutors or help desk people (BTW, see if your school offers similar tutoring sessions – it saved me!).  You’re supposed to be challenged! Hard work pays off.

    It took me 5 years, I worked while going to school.  I kept saying, 2012 is coming whether I like it or not, do I want a degree or not?

    Stick it out and you’ll have your own bad ass story to tell in 2018.







    Post # 53
    92 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I teach at a california community college.  Firstly you are not too old or wrong for school.  You are better off than many if the younger students because you know real life and how to achieve our goal.  Don’t give up on your goal.  You can be dual enrolled at a community college and a CSU.  Find some of the prereqs at a community college (preferably online) and you can transfer those when you finish them.  Take your general eds and get priority for the rest of your classes. Please do not give up.

    Post # 54
    9129 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

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    @LadyMoriarty:  Can you CLEP out of those classes?  Sometimes it’s worth studying the CLEP book and then paying the fee to take the test rather than sitting through the class.

    Post # 55
    743 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

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    @LadyMoriarty:  How many times have you met with your advisor?  Despite what seems to be the “popular opinion” on this board, advisors usually do MUCH more then just advise.  Professors usually need to teach several classes a semester AND do reseach AND publish AND go to/lead conferences AND be on various committees AND do “service to the community AND, on top of all of that, advice many, many students. 

    If the ONLY time you try to talk to your advisor is during advising time, when she/he is also dealing with 30+ other advisees, then yep, she is going to be very busy and very stressed, and no, she probably won’t take an hour out of her busy day to give you the time you require.  However, if you go talk to her outside of the normal “advising” period, then she will get to know you better and will be able to advise you better.  Ya know that student she saw after you?  I would bet you that the other student probably had met with this advisor several times, so the advisor knew her better.  It is not a matter of being in the “cool” club – it is just that that other student has done a better job of presenting herself and the prof knows who she is.

    It sounds like your school has more students than it can really deal with.  If that is the case, you can’t expect hand-holding.  You just need to be more proactive with our advisor and your own scheduling.  (I.e. make sure she KNOWS who you are!)  I’m not sure I would recommend switching advisors yet – you may not get very far with the chair of the dept. and it will cast a pallor on your relationship with your current advisor (if you cannot switch).

    If you were a friend of mine, I’d suggest (a) staying in your major, and trying very hard to get into the classes you need.  But more importantly, I’d also suggest (b) scheduling another meeting with your advisor (sometime between now and winter break).  Maybe offer to buy her a cup of coffee so the two of you can spend a half-hour chatting about your academic past and where you see yourself in a few years.

    Good luck!

    Post # 56
    358 posts
    Helper bee

    I would start looking at concrete class scheduales…it’s easy to over exaggerate that they’ll all be full and there’s no hope but when you actually start looking maybe there’s Room.  I would print out your schools scheduale plus all the scheduales of the community colleges around you so you know what’s available then plan out a scheduale and try to register RIGHT as soon as it opens.  If you really can’t take classes then look at your degree guidelines and see how many elective credits you need.  I’m in my last semester of school and have to take 4 unepected classes of electives cause I didn’t have enough and now have to take 18 credits at once when I could have done a few all the way along when I couldn’t get ino the real classes I needed

    Post # 57
    4474 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    don’t switch your major – you’ll be wasting your time and money if you pick an alternate major you’re not that interested in (been there, done that).  if there’s a class you want to get in to, even if the class is full, show up every day until you can sign on.  I had an Anatomy Class I wanted to get into a couple years ago at a California CC, and the wait list was 35 people.  This was a popular school that had also cut many classes.  I showed up every day – it took 2 weeks, but eventually enough people gave up or dropped that I was able to get in.  This is probably easier to do at a CC than a university, but it’s always worked out for me.


    Post # 58
    9680 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @LadyMoriarty:  An advisor’s job is to advise. You don’t have to like the advice, but it’s a good idea to consider it. I thought you were going to say she told you there were no career prospects in the field you chose (such as being a teacher in southern Ontario…seriously, don’t people research this stuff?). 

    If there are career prospects and it is what you want to do, then wait until next semester to get into the classes or sit down and plan it with her. That’s what I would have done from the start – find out requirements before making a decision. If you don’t want to wait to work any longer, research career prospects in a different area. 

    It’s all dependent on how much longer you’re comfortable waiting and what the ROI will be. 

    Post # 59
    2091 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Ironically, I have stopped talking to advisors, hahaha! I just look at the courses I need to take and I figure it out myself. I had one advisor set me up for a class I HAD ALREADY TAKEN! It was years prior, so I did not realize it until it was too late. I will only deal with one if I have to ask a question, like is this above the introductory level, and will it count towards my degree. 

    I know of many folks who go to school for one field, and end up working in another… You can stick with nutrition, but you may end up working in something else. We have to be flexible in this jacked up economy. I chose business, and I am hoping I can mix my medical work experience with my business degree… Good luck to you. I am 29 by the way, so you are not alone. It is never to late too accomplish your goals. I saw a news story a while back about an 80 year old woman who just graduated from college. These days many are going back to stay competitive in the current job market. Never give up!!!!

    Post # 60
    999 posts
    Busy bee

    I know how discouraging being and “older” student can be, but in the long run it’s not going to matter.  I most definitely think you should stick it out.  What’s a couple more semesters in the grand scheme of things?  Especially if it gets you the job you’ve always dreamed of!  

    Don’t switch to a random major just so you can finish in two years.  School’s a much more enjoyable experience if you actually are interested in what you are learning.

    Post # 61
    13889 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Don’t sign up for a degree you aren’t interested in.  It’s a waste of your time and money, and likely won’t help you land a job you have any interest in pursuing as a career.  Even if the classes are hard to get into, fight for them and fight for the degree you want.

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