Post # 1
Hello! New to the forum. I’m planning our wedding for November of this year. I am excited and enjoying a lot of the planning process, but I can help but feel major anxiety that something is going to go terribly wrong is the days leading up to the wedding, like losing our venue for some reason or not having enough hotel rooms for everyone. I have dealt with an anxiety disorder for quite a long time and I just constantly feel this underlying panic about the whole process. We’re having a pretty casual wedding and my parents have gotten on my case about our break from a lot of traditions, which really isn’t helping. My fiancé is awesome and supportive. I just want to enjoy the process and cross each bridge as I come to it, not constantly worry about what could go wrong.
Thanks for lending an ear, I needed to get that out.
Post # 2
I felt the same exact way about my wedding. My intuition is usually spot on about things and I kept having this feeling like something terrible was going to happen. I started to realize that feeling wasn’t the universe trying to warn me but just my anxiety. I went into my wedding weekend (it was a destination wedding) repeatedly telling myself that I had the power to make it a great wedding or a terrible one — not based on circumstances but my attitude. I decided I was going to have fun no matter what problem arose because of course nothing goes perfectly. The weekend actually WAS perfect except for the expected drama from my parents but I just never let it get to me. I made a comittment to having a good time, not just for me but for my husband.
Thats what you gotta do! Nothing that bad is going to happen that you won’t be able to shrug your shoulders and carry on having a great time on the most fun day ever!
I actually found out months later about small things that didn’t happen or went wrong or whatever and I honestly did not even notice because I was having too much of a good time. So make that same commitment and your wedding is going to be awesome!
Post # 3
We are getting married in November too!
I would recommend just working through the planning process slowly and carefully. Get hyper-organized and take it step by step so you don’t get overwhelmed.
I made myself a monthly check list of things I needed to get done within each month. It has helped a lot. Particularly with the little details (such as center pieces which are currently the bain of my existance lol) and little bits like that.
Also, I think it is important to accept the fact that something could possibly go wrong. Maybe not something as large as a venue issue, but a small hiccup along the way. It is totally OKAY and it won’t ruin your day uness YOU let it.
Deep breaths Bee. Your wedding will be lovely.
Post # 4
I was the same bee, I kept worrying that someone in my immediate family (or god forbid my DH) was going to die right before or on our wedding day. There really wasn’t anything I could do but try to stop ruminating and focus on the positive. And everything turned out perfectly in the end 🙂
Are you in therapy for your anxiety?