Post # 1
My Great Aunt (my deceased grandfather’s sister) is SUPER excited about me and my husband’s reaffirming ceremony. We eloped 4/14/11 and now being forced to have a wedding on our one year anniversary. My aunt is so excited to the point that she is wanting to invite HER friends. She doesnt ask if they can come, she TELLS me that they are coming. She is also treating my wedding as if it is a family reunion by inviting my other great aunt, which is my grandfather’s other sister, whom i have never met before. This is just crazy to me. My family is going crazy that we eloped and didnt let them in on it, then NO ONE is offering to help financially, now they wanna just invite people that i dont even know?? Some nerves!!! (My grandmother did purchase my dress and i do have two cousins that are catering, making my cake, and helping set-up.) My aunt even went on to say that i need to CHANGE my venue when i tried to explain that the extra guest will be over the seating availability!!!!!
My side of the family is larger than my husband’s side and i have way more friends. My family isnt even taking into consideration that this is HIS wedding also and we need to leave room in our 100 guest limit for his family and friends.
how are you ladies handling guest issues?
Post # 3
Oh geez, this sucks. There is never a good way to deal with it, but you can say “our budget allows X many people, all of whom we’ve already accounted for. If these other people are that important to you to have at MY wedding, the only option is if you cover the additional costs. I’m sorry, but we just cannot do it any other way, and hope you understand”…good luck with it!
Post # 4
The only thing I can suggest is to put your foot down or have a potluck get together by the lake (or park, or something similar).
Post # 5
Are they helping pay or something? “I’m sorry family, we are having only X amount of guests and we can’t have all that people”.
My immediate family’s so big I’m not even inviting great aunts!
Post # 6
I’m sorry. FI’s aunt invited her brother in law’s family. Yes, it wasn’t cool. But long story short, we had empty seats due to FI’s grandmother’s entourage bailing after a 6 month long war with her over her entourage. So we had empty seats so I just told Fiance that his aunt can take it up with his grandma (her mother) and they can figure out who gets those seats.
I would just try to get your aunt to see that this is not HER wedding. She is an invited guest which means she is not the one who’s doing the inviting. Good luck.
Post # 7
ikr my mom only has one brother and he only has one daughter. so the extended family is from my mothers side since they are so small. my dad’s side is huge (i have 40+ first cousins) but im just getting to know that side so not many are invited
Post # 8
I use my favorite word–“NO”. Explain to your aunt that it’s not happening and if people show up uninvited, they will be asked to leave so she should maybe save her friends the trip. You are paying for this, you have a seating limit and you want people that you actually know and love at this wedding. Tell her that she is more than welcome to throw you a wedding large enough for you to be able to invite total strangers but if that’s not possible then you’re going to have to stick with “No your friends and my other great aunt are not invited.”