(Closed) My aunt is trying to invite HER friends!!!! HELP!!!!

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Oh geez, this sucks. There is never a good way to deal with it, but you can say “our budget allows X many people, all of whom we’ve already accounted for. If these other people are that important to you to have at MY wedding, the only option is if you cover the additional costs. I’m sorry, but we just cannot do it any other way, and hope you understand”…good luck with it!

Post # 4
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1327 posts
Bumble bee

The only thing I can suggest is to put your foot down or have a potluck get together by the lake (or park, or something similar).

Post # 5
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1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Are they helping pay or something? “I’m sorry family, we are having only X amount of guests and we can’t have all that people”.

My immediate family’s so big I’m not even inviting great aunts!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m sorry. FI’s aunt invited her brother in law’s family. Yes, it wasn’t cool. But long story short, we had empty seats due to FI’s grandmother’s entourage bailing after a 6 month long war with her over her entourage. So we had empty seats so I just told Fiance that his aunt can take it up with his grandma (her mother) and they can figure out who gets those seats.

I would just try to get your aunt to see that this is not HER wedding. She is an invited guest which means she is not the one who’s doing the inviting. Good luck.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I use my favorite word–“NO”.  Explain to your aunt that it’s not happening and if people show up uninvited, they will be asked to leave so she should maybe save her friends the trip.  You are paying for this, you have a seating limit and you want people that you actually know and love at this wedding.  Tell her that she is more than welcome to throw you a wedding large enough for you to be able to invite total strangers but if that’s not possible then you’re going to have to stick with “No your friends and my other great aunt are not invited.”

 

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