(Closed) My aunt sucks!!!

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
10509 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I would say just don’t worry about it and enjoy your birthday!

You’re allowed to make plans that are for adults only.  This would be different if you invited everyone to a party and then headed somewhere immediately after where everyone couldn’t join, but that wasn’t your plan.

I’m sure your cousin will do something for adults when she becomes of age, she can have that type of fun then.

Post # 4
4416 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would definitely say don’t worry about it — it sounds like your mom handled the whole thing REALLY well instead of caving in, and if your cousin ends up coming, then she just plain isn’t your problem. You didn’t invite her; you made it clear that she would be excluded from many/most of the activities; if she decides to come anyway, then that’s on her! You just sit back and do all the fun things on your list, and don’t spend a single second worrying about someone who has to live in the personal hell they’ve created for themselves!

Post # 5
239 posts
Helper bee

stick to your guns.  sometimes family members need to be taken down a peg or two.  it’s your 21st birthday, do what you want to do.  don’t let your aunt and cousin ruin it.  if either of them mention anything or try to start something just say this is an adult only trip.  end of story.  

Post # 6
990 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@alyssaC:  if she even tries to make you feel like crap just tell her literally to shut up. I would probably be mean enough to tell her that this is why she wasn’t “invited” in the 1st place. Seriously though just tell her that it is a 21 and over trip and the fact that you have decided to let her drive and get a seperate room so a 16 year old brat can go is bending over backwards enough

Post # 7
3221 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Your mom handled this very well! I say to let it be, and if your aunt pushes, to let your mom handle it. 

Post # 8
4685 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Your mom sounds wonderful!! 

Post # 10
4685 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Ignoring sounds like the best thing to do.

Post # 11
680 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’d just let it ride too, enjoy YOUR birthday and let your cousin & her friend deal with being left out if they insist on coming. Your aunt should know better anyway, I mean really!?

I’m mean and probably would purposely plan extra adult only things if they come. After all they’re uninvited and underage! HAH! But in all seriousness, don’t change your plans for them. Stick to your fun 21 birthday bash stuff!  🙂



Post # 12
1891 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I just came back from a trip to Vegas, and was surprised at how many kids I saw there, considering what an “adult” place it is (gambling, drinking, smoking, hustlers all over the place trying to get you to get a prostitute or go to strip clubs).  Your aunt is aware that her daughter and her daughter’s friend will be exposed to all this, and it’s ok with her (and the friend’s mom), right?  Lord knows my mom wouldn’t have let me go to Vegas when I was a kid!

It sounds like your mom explained everything very nicely, and as long as your aunt and cousin are aware that there will be many activities that your cousin will be too young for, and all she will be able to do is hang out at the pool and go out to eat with you guys, then you should just try not to worry about it and be excited about the awesome trip your mom is taking you on. 

Post # 13
2250 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Kudos to your mom for handling it so well! Why on earth would a 16 year old WANT to go on a trip to Vegas when she’s not old enough to do anything Vegas-y??

Try to not worry about it too much. Stick to your plans (even if your cousin does come along) and have an amazing time! Happy birthday 🙂


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