(Closed) My aunt wants to wear cream to the wedding….

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1570 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

Are you close to your aunt enough that you speak with her regularly? If so, gently bring this up next time you talk to her. She may not realize how silly this will look in photos. If you aren’t close with her, ask your mother or father to mention to her that it’s improper etiquette to wear any shade of white to a wedding because it looks odd in photos, since people’s eyes naturally gravitate toward white clothing to assume the presence of the bride. I think that’s a good way to say it without sounding like you’re saying you want to be the center of attention. Not that there’s anything wrong with wanting that, at your wedding.

Post # 4
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2398 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

A cream dress of pantsuit?  Not the best color choice, but if she’s wearing a jacket and pants with a colored top or bright jewelry it might not be as noticable.

Post # 5
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4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If it were me, I’d ask my Mother or Father to tell her she can’t.  I swear I’m not really picky about wedding details and such, but no one will be allowed to wear white… or cream to my wedding.  Its just not right.  Now, a lot of people won’t care but if you do, you may want someone (if you’re not sure you can pull it off without sounding rude or self centered) to bring it up so she has some time to get another dress.

Post # 7
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1816 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Having your mom handle it sounds like a great plan.  By The Way, My FI’s aunt wore an ivory strapless, floor length dress to his brother’s wedding.  🙁 Luckily Future Sister-In-Law did not take offense to it.

Post # 8
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2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Bring it up with your mom like you said, but if you think it will cause problems, just let it go.

On the wedding day, you won’t notice or care. Plus, cream is a neutral color anyway, so at least she’ll “go” with everyone else 🙂

Maybe your mom can just make a comments to your aunt that says, “What color should I wear to the wedding? The bride’s wearing white, so any shade of that is out!” and see what happens. But I don’t think telling anyone they can’t wear a certain color, even if it IS white-ish, is kind of something you can’t really do. Plus, if she wears it, she’ll look like a goofball because everyone knows you’re not supposed to do that anyway.

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