(Closed) My B-U-D-G-E-T has a mind of his own/ aka “Grromzilla”

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Can you legitimately afford it?  If you can’t, you really need to sit him down and tell him that.  There is no point going into debt for a wedding, maybe a compromise can be having a reception with all his family potluck style so you don’t have to pay a ton for food?

Post # 5
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664 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I don’t know how realistic this is, but I suppose a compromise could be that he plans the “tasteful” affair that he wants. Then you wouldn’t have to deal with all the decision making. Maybe Tuscany could be for an anniversary down the road?

My Fiance and I had different ideas about what our wedding should look like, but in the end our very small budget dictated most of our planning, which was fine by me!

Post # 6
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66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

oooooooh no… you went from Italy to Vegas! I mean… thats a HUGE difference! I say talk to him!

Post # 7
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7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Seriously, you need to talk to him. Don’t have an argument, talk. Tell him how you feel. Tell him that this huge, traditional wedding is not what you want and that you feel like this whole thing has gotten out of control. Tell him that you have never wanted a big wedding but that you understand that he wants his family there. Have that intimate 50-person affair be your compromise. Put your foot down.

Darling Husband and I had an elegant small wedding that cost $10k (we could have done it on less, we chose to spend that much). We invited 65 people, 40 of which were our immediate family and half of the remaining guests were our mutual friends that we’ve known since high school. I would never have a big wedding.

Post # 8
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59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

*sigh*

I’m in the same boat as well. I really wanted this wedding to just be about us and our loved ones; meaning 20-25 ppl (family & friends). He wants to include everyone he’s ever met because each person has a special history with him (nevermind that it was over 15 years ago and they maybe interact once every year or so).

So we are having the big wedding, but it’s semi-destination (meaning it’s still in our state, but guests will need hotel accommodations) and it’s adult-only which will hopefully keep some people from being able to come (I feel so evil for saying this).

Our venue holds 160 max. We are inviting 170. I’m hoping for 125ish, but would be happy if we could keep it under 140. Save-the-dates go out mid-January; actual invites go out in June (I think)?? Does this sound right?

 

 

Post # 9
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381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

As much as this day means to him- this is a shared marriage but I always say this is ultimately the Bride’s Wedding. We are the ones who have been dreaming about our big day since we were 10. Italy would be amazing- especially if that is your vision.  I would suggest a small reception or dinner party when you return and play a slide show of the wedding to everyone who couldn’t make it. Best of luck with the planning, it will all work out 🙂 

Post # 10
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2750 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t know how to break this to him… but Vegas wedding with Elvis doesn’t sound as tasteful to me as Italy…

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