(Closed) My baby is 11 days old and I'm sad I'm not pregnant anymore.

posted 4 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Following. With the exception of the first trimester, I have enjoyed my pregnancy so far (famous last words, I still have 8-9 weeks of pregnancy left to go). We aren’t sure if we’ll have another child. Lately I’ve found myself trying to cherish as much as I can in case I never get to feel it again. No advice for you since I’m not there yet, but I hope you feel better soon and enjoy the time with your baby ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I think that that’s a normal feeling. I felt that way with my Dear Daughter as well but eventually I didn’t miss it as much.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

What did I do to get over it? I got pregnant again!! I don’t recommend it. Your body is not ready to be pregnant again so quickly. The pregnancy is going fine but still, my body is like “WHYYYYYY???!!!” I loved being pregnant the first time and I really don’t mind it this time, but man is it getting old. Two sober summers in a row?! Blah. I can’t wait to be NOT pregnant, then it will be the rat race of having two boys under two years old…. pray for me. ๐Ÿ˜‰

You’ll get over that feeling, it’s weird at first, but you’re so busy with your new little one and once they really start interacting with you it’s so much fun. ๐Ÿ™‚ Congrats on your new baby!!

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’ve always thought the pregnancy was the easiest part of having my children. I can see longing to go back to the calm before the storm. I am one of those moms that has always taken a while to bond with my kids. My husband was instantly enamored, but it took a couple weeks with me. Having a baby is a huge transition- so don’t be too hard on yourself.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

sheclicksherheels:  It is weird at first. I’d touch my stomach and it would just be all soft- no more baby in there! I missed the kicks for sure. But I was very relieved to not have any more swollen ankles, back pain, Braxton Hicks, gagging while brushing my teeth, etc. It was nice to start losing weight and realize I’d get to wear regular clothes again, it was nice to have a big glass of wine, and it was nice to go for a hike and feel so light. I really enjoyed being pregnant but as I got to know and love my baby (and once he started smiling at us and being more interactive) I didn’t miss it anymore.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

No advice, but I wouldn’t be surprised if I’m in your shoes in a few weeks. I’m 36 weeks now and most of the women in my group are itching to have their babies come early so they can meet them, but I’m hoping I go late! I think part of it is that I’m only planning to have the one kid, so I know I’m probably never going to experience this again and I have been surprised at how much I’ve enjoyed being pregnant. I have no doubt I’ll be sad when my pregnancy is over, but I’m sure that with some time I’ll come around to being happy to have baby and quit missing pregnancy. I’m sure you will as well. Sometimes it just takes some time. I’d just try to focus on the present. Things move so quickly at those early ages, try to enjoy every minute of your little one’s newborn period!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

JenGirl:  I love that you’re hoping you’ll go late! I had my son at 39 weeks+1 day and although it was a relief to just have him arrive I was a little disappointed that I didn’t make it to my due date. A friend of mine was due a few days before me and was thrilled when she had her baby a full MONTH early (she was going to acupuncture and trying all kinds of “methods” to get things going early)- I found it so bizarre. Her baby did end up staying in the NICU overnight and had a little trouble breastfeeding but luckily other than that was totally healthy. 

sheclicksherheels:  It’s true that the newborn period goes quickly. When your son is toddling around and saying his first words you’ll be thrilled but you’ll look back on the tiny snuggly newborn days with nostalgia, too. It’s normal to miss pregnancy but you have a lot of wonderful times ahead of you!

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

For me, pregnancy was sort of like being engaged- a very special time in your life unlike any other, leading up to something pretty amazing.

JenGirl:  I’m also “one and done,” and my daughter is nine months old. Every stage ends up being special when you realize you’ll only experience it once. (Even the worst night she had when she cut her first tooth- at 2AM in the morning I was holding her, reminding myself how blessed I am to have her.)

 

Post # 11
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Helper bee

That is a very normal feeling. My baby is now 3.5 years old and I very much miss being pregnant with her some days.  I also miss her being a little baby that first year and all the “firsts” so there is always something you will miss feeling when you have a baby, but there are also lots of new and exciting things to look forward to! I always feel blessed that I had the opportunity to go through all of this, I feel I am truly lucky.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

MrsAKSkier:  Yeah, I’m hoping this little munchkin stays put until at least 39 weeks!

rebwana:  I think it’s an unanticipated benefit to having only one child! It makes you appreciate each phase more because it’s the only time you’ll experience it! At least that’s what I’m hoping and what has been true with pregnancy!

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yeah, it’s normal.  You’ll eventually miss other stuff too like the newborn period and whatever else.  Enjoy where you are now before it’s gone and you’ve spent that whole time missing something else!

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

sheclicksherheels:  aw it’s normal and will subside in the next few weeks. My Dear Daughter was 2 weeks early and I remember feeling cheated out of my last 2 weeks of being pregnant! I didn’t really do anything to get over it. I just got busy with my newborn and it eventually went away. I definitely had baby fever for a loooong time (maybe 6 months postpartum?) then it went away until she turned a year when it came back. Now that we are starting to try for #2 in like ahh are we sure we want to do this?! why do I want to I be pregnant again!!!

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