Post # 17
Then why bother having one if you aren’t going to be there. My fiance is going to have golf in the morning with my guy relatives (his fam doesnt golf) and then have a poker night with his guy relatives.
If you would rather stay at home and watch sports then do that. The point is for it to be about you not your brother.
Post # 18
- Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park
My husband went camping, fishing, and climbed a mountain. We started off the weekend together at a brewpub and ended it together at another one — no need to drink if you don’t want to. But he definitely wanted a burger after hiking!
Post # 19
Just have to comment along the lines of everyone else! It’s not a bachelor party without the bachelor in question which is YOU 🙂
Your brother and friends should understand and do what you would like. As other have suggested a camping/fishing trip, casino, sporting event – a poker night or if you enjoy video games than a Halo party or whatever game floats your boat!
You should spend the night with family and friends, not alone at home. For your brother’s bachelor party you can organize and strip club visit and sit it out then!
Post # 20
The party is in your honor, so not only should you be there, but your friends should do whatevery YOU want to do. A lot of brides and grooms don’t go wild with their stag parties. My Maid/Matron of Honor was super stoked to take me out for a wild night, but I let her know that wasn’t what I wanted. She’s my best friend, so she wasn’t surprised. If you’re looking for inspiration, here are some things that my male friends have done on their bachelor parties: camping/hiking, going to a music concert, going to a sporting event, getting a big meal at a "guy" restaurant (like BBQ), going out to the bars without getting wasted or going to a strip club, watching a sporting event or playing video games while drinking.
Why don’t you suggest to your brother that he throws you a bachelor party with your friends coming over to play video games. Sounds like that’s what you want to do. You could set up multiple systems and tvs to play together, etc. Order your favorite take out, set a bar, turn the music up loud, etc. You could tell him it "counts" as a bachelor party because it’s the last time you can stay up all night on a weekend drinking and playing games with your buddies without being "nagged by the wife."
Post # 21
I think that’s a hilarious solution. If that’s what you really want to do, just do it!
But I do agree that it doesn’t make much sense. Isn’t the whole point of a bachelor party at a strip club (not that I don’t think this is degrading to woment, but I’ll put that aside) to buy the groom lapdances and embarass the crap out of him? (Can totally understand why you don’t want to go, By The Way.) So why would they even want to go if you’re not there? Just not the same.
If I were you I’d ask your brother to plan something you’d enjoy. A gaming night, a camping trip, dinner out, paintball – whatever it is that you enjoy. The idea of the bachelor party is to have a guys night. Doesn’t really work if you’re all alone.
Also keep in mind, a bachelor party is not a required event. You don’t have to do anything if you don’t want to.
Post # 22
According to Mrs. Post Bachelor Parties are not a must. So if you don’t want one, you don’t have to have one. However, if you would like to celebrate with your boys one night, then I suggest you keep it to things you are comfortable doing. For instnace my friend’s husband rented a fishing boat for the afternoon and all the boys went fishing, and then got together for a barbque. My brother in law loves baseball, so they all went to a game. My own FH isn’t much for strippers (neither am I), so we are thinking, baseball, paintball, fishing or surfing would suit him just fine. And if what you like is to play videogames, why not invite the boys over for barbque, video games and beer.
But like I said, if this makes you happy, do it.
Post # 23
"<span class=”Apple-style-span” style=”font-family: tahoma; font-size: 13px”>This HAS to be an April Fool’s joke. My guy doesn’t like strippers either, and has said he will not have them at his Bachelor Party, but you better believe he isn’t going to be sitting at home playing video games…."
Nope, it’s not an April Fool’s joke. The more I’ve thought about it, the more I don’t want to go to my bachelor party. My friends are depending on me to give them a night away from their wives/gf’s/whoever to go out, get drunk, see naked women, whatever. Personally, I’m not very social so I don’t want to hang out with everyone anyway. I’m pretty sure this is the perfect solution. This way, everyone gets what they want. My brother and his friends can have fun and I can enjoy one last night of peace before I’m married. It’s a win for everyone!
Post # 24
I still think it’s the wrong answer to be dishonest to your friends!
Please consider just having a night out that doesn’t involved strippers and alcohol. I think your friends would rather spend time with you and do something you’d want to, and if not–what kind of friends are they? Have a night in and invite them over to play video games, or don’t do anything at all. I don’t think letting them believe your brother is you is the right thing to do.
Post # 25
I think it’s a great idea. You have to figure, that’s what MOST all guys wanna do at a bachelor party. So, if they wanna do it, let them go out and have their fun. Most of you guys are different in the sense that they won’t even care whether you’re there or not. They will be doing what they went to do, have fun.
So, your solution is perfect. They get what they want and so do you.