(Closed) My Bachelorette Hell (VERY LONG)

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
123 posts
Blushing bee

That sounds like the trip from unplanned hell. Sounds like no one stepped up to do any planning :/. This happened at one of my best friend’s wedding where I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man. Her Maid/Matron of Honor planned NOTHING except for hey let’s all wear black and red. Me, another Bridesmaid or Best Man, and our friend who wasn’t even in the bridal party planned and PAID FOR every single thing (oh and we were all in college surviving on loans and part time jobs, so it’s not like we had the money). Her Maid/Matron of Honor didnt even offer to buy her a drink when we went out or pay for her dinner. What’s better is her Maid/Matron of Honor forgot to bring the wedding rings to the ceremony that the bride gave her an hour before we left for the wedding. Her aunt ha to miss half the wedding and drive back to get them.




some people are just not planners. Sorry it sounds like you have a whole bridal party of them 🙁


Post # 4
9689 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ok, made it through the wall of text, yikes.

Um, I’m sorry this happened to you.  I’m not a fan of bachelorette/bachelor parties so I really can’t say much besides I’m so sorry your Maid/Matron of Honor is undependable and unorganized.  Perhaps an entire weekend of festivities was a bit much to plan between that many people. 

Maybe you could replan another outing but make it a simple evening party or spa day event instead?  Since you essentially got rained out and they really haven’t spend too much money yet, maybe they’ll agree to make it up to you.  I hope so!  Good luck!

Post # 5
5958 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@conzy:  …so it didn’t go so well….sometimes in spite of best laid plans, it doesn’t.  This happens, it happens to everyone sooner or later and it looks like it happened in a BIG way to you and your bridal party.  Its not a reflection of bad intentions or ill will, just one of those things that went totally sideways, and you can either let it eat at you, or chalk it up to some universal gag reel and laugh about it, because honestly, there’s nothing wrong with having a flop or two in your life.


Post # 6
1333 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@conzy:  Can I ask…are you one of the first ones in the group to get married?  Is this type of party planning new to them?  It does not excuse a lot of what I read, but it sounds as if NO ONE took initiative because no one knew they should, or could, or that it was to be a weekend different than the normal ‘bar hopping, meet boys, etc’ they are maybe used too?

Regardless, they were obvious a bit clueless, and although you cannot take back the weekend, or even request a re-do, protect your wedding day by being VERY explicit in the details, expectations, etc you have for them.  From times, to attire, to possible costs – if any, addresses, phone numbers, etc, etc, etc…

Sorry this happened to you though.  What a bummer 🙁

Post # 8
850 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@conzy:  Perhaps the best thing that can come out of this is an opportunity to re-evaluate the expectations you have of the bridal party when it comes to the wedding. What do you expect they will do? Do you think you can count on them to fulfill those expectations? How will it feel if they don’t come through? Is it reasonable to still expect those things from them?

Post # 9
4432 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

unfortunately mine wasn’t ANY better.  Switching up plans so my MoH could be close to her newborn which was fine, except she ditched us, us being two others other than myself because she couldn’t take it anymore.  (Her newborn was with her husband and his family) 

mind you I told MoH that we would do something local and low key but she insisted on Long Island (I hate Long Island) because there were bars.  YeaH. These clubs and bars were full of barely legals.  So much fun. 


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