Post # 1
My Maid/Matron of Honor lives in another part of the country. She is traveling to my city to throw me a bridal shower on her way to a family event, which is super sweet of her. She had also planned to have a bachelorette party for me. We were just going to go out for drinks and see a show. However, she just told me that she has to cancel it because of the work she needs to do in order to get our mutual friend’s place ready for the shower. There won’t be time to reschedule it while she is here and she isn’t arriving more than a day before the wedding. I don’t want to be hungover on my wedding day. 😀
I’m bummed about the party, but I understand the work involved in making this shower happen. However, I really want to have a bachelorette party. Is it appropriate to throw my own? Is it appropriate to tell my friends what happened and see if they want to cobble something together? I don’t have much money, but it would be really fun even to have some friends over at my house for drinks and laughs. However, I wouldn’t be able to include my Maid/Matron of Honor, which sucks.
What is the etiquette of bachelorette parties? Is it OK to host my own?
Post # 3
I think that if you really want to have one, you should reach out to your other friends and see what everyone can come up with together! It sounds like it would be fun to have the ladies over for some drinks.
Post # 4
I believe you can host your own bachelorette party because that kind of party really doesnt involve gifts.
Post # 5
I vote it’s fine to host your own bachelorette….the reason (to me) why it isn’t appropriate to throw your own shower is that it’s an event where people bring gifts, so throwing your own seems gift grabby.
A bachelorette is totally different, so I say go right on ahead, and have a great time!
Post # 6
I agree with NCPwedding. Since this is not an event that involves gifts, there is nothing wrong with throwing your own. What about talking to your bridesmaids? is there not someone else who could put this together instead?
Post # 7
@baileysbride2be: I only have a Maid/Matron of Honor.
I was thinking it might be interesting to gather together all of the people in town two days before the wedding and have a night on the town. That way, I’d have time to talk to more of my friends and I’d get to relax admit last-minute wedding details.
Post # 8
You cannot host your own bachelorette party, but you can host a girls night out. Just don’t relate it to the wedding and you are fine.
Post # 9
@squishycupcake: OF COURSE you can host your own bachelorette!! You’re a bride and you totally deserve one! I definitely think you should call your girlfriends and throw together something together, even if it’s just having the girls over to your house for drinks and fun! I think that sounds like an awesome bachelorette!
ETA: would anyone here really not go to a friend’s bachelorette party just because she invited you herself?? That seems completely ridiculous! The bachelorette party is all about giving your friend (the bride) a fun night before she gets married. Who cares who planned it?
Post # 10
That sucks that your Maid/Matron of Honor won’t be able to come. I think you could totally host your own bach party. Especially if you just want ppl over for drinks. You can buy some alcohol and have the girls come over. I don’t see a problem in that at all. It’s not like you are saying I want to go to an expensive place you all must pay to go. I think it would actually be weird to try and see if someone else would want to host a party. It may put them in an awkward position and feelings could be hurt. If you want it, host it 🙂
Post # 11
yeah just go bar-hopping and do the bachelorette list, everyone pays their own way; my bachelorette night was the 2nd funnest night, the best night was wedding night of course; live it up, this is your night to be the star!!!don’t forget the tiara and matching garlands, everyone will wish you well!! it’s fun!
Post # 12
I think it was Mrs Starfish who hosted her own craft night/Bachlorete party. She had all her friends over and they worked on making her guest book bench and other wedding crafts (I think). Something like that is TOTALLY cool in my book and I would have no problem attending. Get some alcohol, foods and let lose with your ladies. I would even bring you some naughty things to wear on your wedding night because I’m gifty like that 😉