(Closed) My bachelorette party is going to be lame…

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Why in the world would hanging out with your good friends be boring?!?! You don’t need alcohol to have a good time.It’s a shame that you have such a pisspoor attitude before going in… it’s sure to be a self fulfilling prophecy now! There’s no way you can have a good time now. 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You said you have 3 bridesmaids, why would they be bridesmaids if they aren’t good friends? My bacholerette party will only be two people- my closest friend and my Future Sister-In-Law. I’m looking forward to it no matter what it is because someone cared enough to plan it, obviously you have someone who cares enough to plan something for you.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m sure you think there are a million details you need to take care of, but it sounds like your stress is taking over your ability to relax and have fun.  Don’t cancel this party.  Instead, make the night super fun, and don’t talk wedding details to anyone (make it a rule.)  I think you’ll feel better if you have some alone time with your girlfriends, the planning process seems to be getting in the way of a positive attitude towards the bachelorette.

Post # 22
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

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@coffeegal85:  What makes you think your MOH/sister didn’t want to plan something?  I’m Maid/Matron of Honor to my sister, and I’m thrilled to be planning everything.

I think you really could have had fun, and it seems like your sister put effort into this. 

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I would either 1. Say you aren’t attending. 2. Try to make the best of it.

Really it could be plenty of fun with the right attitude. And they will probably have fun even if you don’t.

Clearly people care about you otherwise they wouldn’t have planned it anyway even after you said you didn’t want one. If I didn’t really want to attend something and someone gave me a way out, i’d take it. Unless I was looking forward to it and liked the person. So I think they care more than you think.

Post # 24
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Busy Beekeeper

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@coffeegal85:  are you assuming they feel obligated to come or did they tell you this?  In any case, it IS possible to attend an event you feel obilgated to attend and completely enjoy yourself.  I feel like if you have convinced yourself it’s going to be miserable, it’s going to be miserable.  I’m sorry your sister didn’t listen to what you wanted, but she did it with good intentions and desire for you to enjoy yourself.  If people really didn’t care, they would not attend – ‘obligation’ or not!

Post # 26
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@coffegal85: Hi there! I know it’s easy to be self consious about the closeness or realness of your friends around this time. It can be hard and mess with your head, especially if you havn’t seen some of your friends in awhile, even your bridesmaids. Try to see the positive though! For example, my bachelorette is this Saturday and I havn’t see 2 of my bridesmaids in about a year, I see it as a reunion and I’m so excited. One of my bridesmaids even isn’t coming to my bachlorette because she has another wedding, no big deal, I know it’s not personal. Perspective can change a misrable situation into a memorable, fun situation, but only if you let it!!!!

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My Bachelorette party was a blast! We went pole dancing and then my Maid/Matron of Honor just cooked us a dinner at her hotel room and we stayed there and played games and got silly! Some people drank, most didnt and we all went to our own places afterwards. 

Don’t set your mind that it will be lame, just take it for what it is and be happy no matter what. If you decide its going to be lame before it even happens it will be. 

Post # 28
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

No one is holding a gun to these  women’s heads to go to your bach party. I have to agree with OctBrideToBe your attitude is what is going to make your party a downer. 

I couldn’t drink at my own bach party due to I was 4 months pregenant I still had fun even though everyone else was drinking. It is what you make of it. IF you go into it with that kind of attitude yeah its going to be lame..

 

Post # 29
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

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@coffeegal85:  OMG I hate to keep responding, but I can relate to how your Maid/Matron of Honor feels!  I have had to keep my mouth tightly tightly shut not to complain to my sister about how one or two of the attendees have been acting.  And I probably have only been able to keep quiet because I can b*tch with my mom about it 😉

Your sister probably wanted everything to be PERFECT for you, and she is annoyed that some people are not staying at the hotel that she probably struggled to find a super cheap price for!  I have this girl that’s coming that has been generally super difficult, never answers emails, etc. etc.  I have wanted to complain to my sister so many times!

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

At my bachelorette we all played a bunch of games in the hotel before we went out…stuff like trivia about me and Fiance, what is your funniest memory of the bride, etc etc….my Maid/Matron of Honor got a bunch of penis-themed prizes for everyone, and it was hilarious! To be honest, the bar-hopping etc was fun, but that part (where everyone had had maybe a drink or two) was my favourite part of the night.

You need to stop thinking people are obligated to come-it will show in your attitude towards them. I wouldn’t go to someone’s bachelorette if I didn’t want to-“obligation” or not.

 

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