(Closed) My background and results from following Mr Bee’s plan… LONG sorry

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
4567 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Well, without knowing either of you in real life, I’d say that he’s definintely thinking about it! That’s a good sign. Just keep doing what you’re doing, living your life, all that jazz. You’re doing a great job, keep it up!

Post # 4
1011 posts
Bumble bee

Knowing that you loved clubbing (and he doesn’t), you might consider going out more!

Post # 6
2765 posts
Sugar bee

I am super proud of you! You are doing exactly the right things, and as you can see the backup plan starts to work very quickly!

A number of Waiting bees have implemented the backup plan, and it’s exciting to see it working. 🙂 But I do have one concern: a lot of waiting ladies seem to be implementing the “go out with your girlfriends” part of the plan… but I haven’t seen that many doing the “invest in yourself” part of the plan.

You mentioned going back to college to finish your studies… is there a small step you could take towards that now? If you are going to study English, maybe buy a few of the books you’d be reading and get a head start? If you’re going to study medicine, maybe volunteer at a local hospital?

You really need to take back control of your life in order for the Backup Plan to fully work. In order to do that, it’s really important that you have a bunch of things that you have full control over.  

Going out with friends is definitely a big one!  Now if you can add a few more to that list, you’ll be even better positioned – both for life, and also for an engagement. 🙂


Post # 7
1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I have always been a big believer in the Be Your Own Woman plan. You can’t worry about the “when will he propose” because you will drive yourself crazy. You have to be your own person with your own goals and dreams (outside of marriage of course), and know that the confident, independent person you are is super attractive to the person you just happen to be in a relationship with. Once I stopped worrying about when my Fiance would propose, not only did I feel better about myself, but I felt better about our relationship and where we were emotionally at that time.

And I think as long as you live together and have already talked about marriage, it’s okay to set an expectation up like “If we aren’t ready to get engaged naturally by this time next year, then maybe we need to evaluate where we are in our relationship and if we still want the same things.” It sounds pressurey, I know. But you have to at least agree that a engagment is something possible in the future and if you come to find out that’s changed, then you might need to evaluate why you are together still. Maybe the timeline should be longer for you (school, age, family, location, whatever) or maybe each person’s goals are not the same anymore.

Sounds like you are already doing right for yourself! Good luck with school! I say get that out of the way first. If you set out to get your degree regardless of your relationship, do that first and then worry about the next stage of your life. Enjoy college!!

Post # 8
1237 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

A bit off topic but.. what is Mr. Bee’s Backup Plan? Maybe this is something I need, lol!

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