Post # 1
So, tomorrow I turn 30 and I’m totally not where I want to be in my life. I’m divorced, gone on waaay too many bad dates, and all my friends fell off the face of the earth. I’ve always felt successful. Graduated from a great university, I’ve lived on my own since I’ve graduated college, own my second house, have worked 8 years at the same career…but none of that is fulfilling. I don’t even feel like any of that is a great accomplishment anymore.
all I want is to be happily married. But I wonder how that’s ever going to happen if I have no friends and no way to meet new people. I tried the online dating thing. That was hilariously a dead end. I’ve never met so many liars, drunks, lazy guy, and crazies!! I just can’t believe some of these people exist!! Sadly, after all the horrible things my ex did to me, I still miss him. How dumb is that? But me going through with the marriage was more dumb so I’m half to blame. It’s just hard to see your life differently after Four years with someone even when I know three of them were not great 😕
im not even sure if I want kids but I feel like by the time I am ready and if I meet someone, it will be too late.
Blah. Just get me out of the dumps. I really like cat memes, FYI. Lol. this crazy guy is what puts a smile on my face. Meeoooow!!!
Post # 2
I’m so sorry life sure can suck sometimes! It sounds like you’ve been so much more successful than a lot of people I know and you should be proud of that!! I hope you find the happiness that you are looking for and your kitty is adorable. 🙂
These are three of my favorites!!
And also for tomorrow…HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!
Post # 3
Happy early bday!!!! I’ll be 30 this year, I’m divorced also, and still not exactly where I want to be with my career so I know the feeling. Just wanted to say CHEER UP 🙂 it will all work out. Enjoy your bday
Post # 4
Welcome to Club 30!!!! Do you know what I dont miss about my 20’s? I dont miss smokey and sweaty night clubs or bad drinks. I dont miss keeping up with trends either. I dont miss keeping up with a huge social circle of friends and drama.
What I love about my 30’s…. My friends circle is tight. I dont have to talk to my besties everyday (or week) but we know how to reach eachother. In my 30’s im looking forward to traveling, finding superb wines and buying comfy furnature. LOL
What wont you miss about your 20’s and what are you looking forward to in your 30’s?
Post # 5
Happy birthday! OP, I was exavtly where you were at 30, and you know what…my thirties were the best decade ever. It was so much better than my twenties. Sure, I dated a few deadbeats, but I had fun, I grew as a person, my career took off in ways I never imagined, I met my fabulous husband, traveled a lot, ran marathons and just made the most out of life. I’m 42 now and immensely happy with my life. So don’t be down. You have no idea all the great things that await you!
Post # 6
I’m a firm believer that what’s meant to be will be. You’ll meet your Mr. Right! Don’t be sad! And happy almost bday!
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
One day, when you least expect it, love will find you. In the meantime, pamper yourself and have a Happy Birthday!!!
Post # 8
What you’re experiencing, while unpleasant and disconcerting, is not unusual for someone approaching their thirties.
Many women have been where you are, and many women will be where you are in the future. The great thing is that for many of the women who went through this, their worries were all, or mostly, for naught. They went on to get married, have children, and live their lives in fulfilling ways. It’s likely that your situation will be that way too. It may not happen tomorrow or as soon as you want it to, but it will likely happen.
In the mean time, appreciate the fact that while you’re not in the relationship you would love to be in right now, you’re also not in a bad relationship and wishing that you could find a way out of it. You actually have the time to explore yourself more, enjoy yourself more, observe others and learn from their mistakes, and improve yourself in ways that could help you navigate your life and relationships in healthier and deeper, more meaningful ways.
I know this isn’t cute cat memes or anything like it, but I hope it helps. Try to enjoy yourself and this time you have to reevaluate your life. It may not feel like it, but it’s a blessing in many ways.
Post # 9
I met the wrong guy at 30. Stayed with him for 3 years. Then I met the right guy and I’m getting married at 35. It was worth the wait. It’s never too late. I thought I was an old, hopeless maid at 33, but I met my fiance mere months after dumping the jerk I was with from 30-33. Things move quickly when you’re in your 30s. With so much more experience, you really know what you’re looking for.
Post # 10
Happy early Birthday!! And you should be proud of your accomplishments in life up to this point! I think it’s awesome that you are educated, established, and independent. I always believe that everyone should live for themselves first and do all the things they want to do so that when they finally meet the person they are meant to be with, everything will fall into place. You’re only 30 – that is still young. I finally met the love of my life at 31 and we’ve been married for five blissful years. I already had my education and career too, so meeting him seemed like perfect timing when it happened. Join some clubs, go to the gym, join a walking or sport group, just try to engage in things you would enjoy doing. When you meet the right one, it will be worth the wait! Don’t be sad – the 30’s is a very exciting time!!
Post # 11
Happy Birthday! I was so glad to leave my twenties behind this year. This is a great time for you filled with possibility! You’d be surprised how things tend to unfold when they’re ready
Post # 12
My 30th birthday consisted of the CIA casing my apartment then showing up at my work. Apparently a close family member needed new security clearance and I had to testify that they were not a threat to America. That was embarrassing so I called my favorite radio station so they could do a shot for my birthday. They asked how I felt now that I was officially expired. I said “what? I’m a hot a** b**ch!” and sent a pic to prove it. It was posted online and over 1000 people voted on if I was spank bank material. I’m a 7.4. That night I went out with friends and a guy I dated for 5 minutes made a point to get the number of the waitress to wave in my face. Literally it was waved in my face. Happy freakin 30th to me. Thats all fun and good. It’s funny where you find yourself at 30.
I started to date my best friend at 30. We are happily engaged. The best years can be after 30. You know yourself. You have confidence. You have an established career. You’re educated! You have your crappy drama years of your 20’s behind you! You have the best years in front of you!
Post # 14
Happy birthday! I know you’re feeling down but all the memes the bees have posted and encouragement is hopefully helping. I also just wanted to say don’t give up on online dating, it’s a numbers game, just keep trying and you might find a true gentleman. My Fiance and I met on eHarmony, so I highly recommend that site. Good luck and happy birthday!
Post # 15
Are we dating in the same city? It’s madness out there lol! I can’t find anyone good either and I’m 31! As my friend says tho…all it takes is one. the right one is out there!