Post # 17
I know life can be hard sometimes, but try to stop seeing yourself as the victim and feeling sorry for yourself. Your life is NOT over, you’re 30, not 70! You have so many good years ahead, and so much time do meet the love of your life. Most of my friends (28-35 years old) are either single or ‘just in a relationship’ (unmarried) and that’s completly normal. Try to enjoy life without stressing out too much about meeting someone. You can only be happy with someone if you were happy with your life and the life you had before. You have no friends? Why don’t you join a gym, or go to yoga class, or learn a new language in an institute? There are so many ways to meet new people. Do something that makes you happy, buy a bicycle, take walks in the forest, redecorate your apartment. You will see, you don’t need a man do be happy, but you do need friends. And, probably when you don’t expect it at all, you’ll meet someone.
Look, I was younger than you when I met my boyfriend, but I came from a really dark place. I had two bad relationships behind me- My first boyfriend was a drug addict and stabbed himself in front of me (he didn’t die, but they sent him to a closed facility, which was basically the end of our relationship) and the other one cheated on me and I didn’t find out til the end. After those two relationships, I tried hard to meet other guys because I thought if I meet the man of my life, I will be happy. I met some guys, but I wasn’t really happy. I felt like I was still too hung up on my past relationships, and I needed to do something for myself. I stopped dating for a while, spent a LOT of time with friends (and met many new people), started going to the gym, started taking runs in the forest, and tried to just be happy with the life I have. And- It worked. I reached the point where I didn’t even worry about men or dating anymore. I thought ‘If it happens one day that’s great, if not I’ll be happy anyways’. And then I met someone and fell in love, really when I didn’t expect it to happen at all.
Post # 18
We are literally in the same boat, I turned 30 in March, live alone with my two cats, total crazy cat lady, never married but desperate to find my special someone. All of my friends are married with babies. I am the last single girl standing. Done online dating to not much sucess. I was getting bummed out near my 30th but then gave myself a good talking to and remembered my friend who passed away aged 27, and thought how much of a ungrateful cow I was being to be so down about turning 30 when she never got the chance. Sure, I am not where I want to be in life, but I am happy and healthy, have my family and my friends and there is still time for everything else to slot into place. Chin up.
Post # 19
Cheer up friend! I got divorced a few years ago when I was 38 after being married for 16 years. Totally not where I thought I’d end up. But – life has taken a much better turn and I am much happier now! I hope the same for you! Happy birthday!! 🙂