(Closed) My best friend is addicted to his emotional abuser

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Uuuuggghhhh I wish I had better advice for you, but it’s so so so hard to get people to wake up to that sort of thing… When you’re the one in the situation it’s so easy to deny. You can try to tell him what you see but I can’t imagine it would be super helpful if he refuses to believe it. 🙁 Thoughts are with you and your friend.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

All you can do is be there for him but the reality of it is that the only way he will leave is if he wants to leave. I hope he wakes up sooner than later. Just continue being the friend he can go to in his time of need. 

I am sorry because I know you feel helpless. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Have you tried talking to your friend?  He will probably value your opinion on his relationship.  Make him realize that his partner is toxic to his health and is emotionally abusive.  Try to bring his spirits up?  Im really sorry. 🙁

 

I had a friend that was in a similar situation and everytime her bf hit her she would tell me “he didn’t mean it”.  No matter what I did to help, it didn’t work, she couldn’t help herself.  I haven’t seen her since her bf and I got into a physical altercation when he hit her infront of me. (LOL, I have a temper for only being 5’2″) I haven’t seen or her from her since and often wondered how she was doing (she stopped talking to me).  So I totally understand how you are feeling. 🙁  Good luck.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

This is the sort of thing where you’re best voicing your concerns, and then letting it be.  Your friend’s the one who has to find strength within himself to leave.  Be his support, but realize this is the sort of thing only he can change.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

do you really think that your bff doesn’t think he is in an abusive relationship?  like you said, he likes to “fix” people. 

maybe your bff doesn’t really know what a good relationship is supposed to be like.  as for most people in abusive relationships, it takes time for them to recognize all of the evidence. 

just be there for your bff and show him what true friendship is supposed to be like.  hopefully he will see the light.

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