(Closed) My best friend is REALLY pissing me off (sorry, gotta vent or will lose it!!!!)

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I know how you feel girl!  I have had a friend that was the other way around where she couldn’t go anywhere without her boyfriend and it was like ‘really? do we have to go out to coffee with your boyfriend?’  It really doesn’t sound like she is being much of a friend to you especially since she is blowing you off the past two days.  I hope that you can work it out and don’t reach a point where it isn’t worth it anymore.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Sorry you are having issues with her. My first thought was that maybe she should get him a puppy or make him go find some friends to play with. From what you have stated, it seems like he is way to controlling of their relationship.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

that sucks- it sounds like high school!! does he not have any friends? Ugh. I know a girl whose husband has a friend with a girlfriend like that and she always winds up “babysitting” the annoying girlfriend so the guys can have guy time. she hates it.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Bachelorette party? Really? That doesn’t sound fun – I would have some strong words for any of my friends who did that. Sometimes you just have to be patient and wait for the initial “OMG-I can’t bear to be without him” period of the relationship to pass. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

This is my best friend…she blows me off ALL THE TIME because her husband. Like the only time I get to see her or have a convo with her without him trying to talk to her at the same time and interject is when he’s deployed!!! It doesn’t help that I HATE him because he’s terrible to her!

Post # 10
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree no boys at your bachelorette party!  And lol about him not needing a puppy that he is one.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ugh. This guy sounds like my ex. He wouldn’t let me do anything without him and would bitch and moan and pout and make me feel guilty if I wanted to go out with my girlfriends. I don’t know that there’s much you can do except basically be honest with her that it’s not healthy to be in a relationship like that. My friends did for me, and I didn’t listen for a long time but eventually I got the picture. It’s hard when you’re in a relationship when you’re up each other’s asses to see outside of that and realize that you’re really co-dependent. The fact that SHE HERSELF actually entertained the idea of him coming to your bachelorette party is maybe the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard, though. Even at my most co-dependent with the ex, I would have known that was wack. Good luck with this one.

Post # 12
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662 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - The Mountain Terrace, Woodside, CA

That is so lame, I can see why you’d be upset with her! Seriously, even your bachelorette party, now that is ridiculous!

Maybe suggest your friend get him a video game for Christmas? Guys seem to be really addicted to those….maybe he’ll become an addict and let you and your friend have some alone time?

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ugh. That sounds pretty irritating. Unfortunately, there’s not much that you could say to her to make her see that what she is doing is pushing you away. No one can see themselves in that type of relationship, so they just refuse to see that they’re like that. I think the only thing that you can do is to continue being the friend that you are, and keep putting your foot down about things that he obviously shouldn’t come to (like your bachelorette party). She’s not going to listen to your honesty about how unhealthy that relationship is for awhile, but eventually she’ll understand, and she’ll be grateful that she still has your friendship.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Oh gosh, sounds really annoying. Doesn’t he have any friends? Doesn’t she ever need ‘girl time’? I mean, I can do anything with my Fiance and it’s a blast, but nothing beats the occasional girl night. Just keep putting your foot down, good luck!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

He didn’t go to your bachelorette perty did he?  In My Humble Opinion that sounds like an unhealthy relationship.  My ex boyfriend treated me that way.  It started out with him not wanting me to go anywhere without him and putting the guilt trip on me and eventually got so bad that if I missed his call he would leave me vm’s yelling at me, calling me terrible names, and saying he hated me.  It was not good.  I hope there isn’t anything more serious going on with your friend. 

Post # 16
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705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I had a friend like this. I cut ties with her after she bailed on over $100 we owed for gas and electric. They are now married and apparently very happy, but we are still not friends. I don’t deal with people in my life like that!

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