(Closed) My best friend is secretly jealous…? Need YOUR ADVICE ASAP

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 63
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@tikki88:  I was guessing they are implying she is in porn or a stripper/escort or something.  Don’t know?

 

Post # 65
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@lookingforadvice77:  I’m only speaking from personal experience in the field and living here for over 20 years, YMMV .

Post # 66
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I haven’t read the other replies, but just to play devils advocate, please don’t assume that “your life is exactly where you want it to be and hers isn’t”. Just because it isn’t your idea of a good time, it sounds like she’s enjoying her life. 

If you want her to listen and support you where you are in your life stage, you need to do the same for her.

Post # 67
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Can we just be clear that OP isn’t engaged yet?  What exactly is the friend supposed to be jealous about?  Sounds like she’s pretty happy with her life.

Post # 68
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

@tikki88:  I think RosieCholi means acting in “Adult Movies”.   I think that’s right.  I don’t think your friend is jealous either,  she has gone her own way and you have gone yours maybe in the future you both might get back on track.

Post # 69
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Newbee

I understand this completely! The same thing has been happening to me for at least over a year now! We’ve been Bffs for over 13 years and my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years…. i have serious plans to get married pretty soon, and will most likely get engaged in not more than 30 days… But everytime i say anything about a future wedding my “BFF” rudely interrupts me and says “OH yeah? Where’s your ring?”  or makes a snappy comment about how her sister and her husband had an amazing wedding and makes me feel like she is always trying to argue with me…. Sometimes she’ll even end up saying the same exact thing as i just said but in a different set of words, just to have the ‘final word’ on a conversation/discussion.

 

i feel so attacked all the time!!

 

she has only had 1 relationship about 8 years ago, and it only lasted one month, so she does not have very much experience with real relationships but she always gives me  very rude ‘advice’ about how her sister’s or cousin’s marriage is so great…. I honestly think my relationship with my boyfriend is pretty amazing, we trully are one of those kind of couples that everyone always see as ‘the perfect couple’ because we truly project love and friendship… And we almost never have serious fights or anything that threatens our relationship…. So i don’t appreciate her ‘advice’ when it is clearely comming from a bad place and when we don’t really need it.

I have kept this inside me for so long because i don’t want to go and say something that would make her feel like “oh, you must be so jealous of me…” And i trully don’t think the problem is with me, i just think we both always dreamt about living this relationships/engagements/marriages at the same time… And for some crazy reason God decided to send me my other half a little earlier, and i am SURE that she will soon meet her true love as well…. I know she deserves someone that will love her and take care of her, but i cannot control when that happens… So i don’t see why there is so much agression comming my way.

Post # 69
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Newbee

She’s just upset and can’t take the fact that the two of you grew up together and her life hasn’t taken off. she thought she’d be succesful but it’s obviosuly not worked out for her. She’s in denial and acting like a child. Don’t worry too much and go ahead and get married. 🙂

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