Post # 1
How would you handle this…
my whole life my best friend and i have been very close our lives fall together around the same time, all the time. And now our weddings are going to be very close together.
We like similar things but the way we execute them turns out differently. We are intrigued by similar sytles but add different twists to make them our own.
We are confident that our weddings will reflect our own personl styles. But my problem is that, slowly but surely some of the details she is choosing are details I have already chosen for mine.
What would you do?
Post # 3
i would try avoiding talking weddings with her! talk about something else. the weather! anything! that way you wont have any idea and you wont have to think about it.
Post # 4
Hopefully you guys can talk openly about it. I think that to some degree you have to be aware of what is really just a common wedding thing, and what’s meant to be specifically personal to you own, and set boundaries with eachother about what you’re not ok with sharing.
Or, just be aware that each wedding will have plenty of different guests, and be ok with some similarities.
Post # 5
My best mate got engaged about a month after me and is getting married 3 months before me. I’m so excited! I’m a Bridesmaid or Best Man for her and she’s one for me. She’s the one person I know won’t get tired with wedding talk!
I guess at the moment, (over a year away from either event), we don’t have too much to worry about. Our weddings will be significantly different – I’m having a church wedding and reception in a hall, she’s having a civil ceremony in a hotel.
The way I see it, I have a choice to either get upset and worry about her wedding having some things the same, or I can just enjoy the fact that we’re both marrying our men. As far as I know, we might choose the same colours/flowers/other major element, but I’d still rather just be happy for her (and for me!).
Post # 6
I’m right there with you rainstorm! My BFF of over 20 years got engaged a few months after I did and she is getting married 3 months (almost to the day) after I am! And I couldn’t be happier or more excited! We have totally different styles, so our weddings will be very different, but even if they were clones…I wouldn’t care at all…I couldn’t be happier for her =)
Besides, a wedding is just one day ladies!!! It’s the MARRIAGE that’s important, not the color of the napkins or the centerpieces or what side dishes to have with which entrees…we’ve gotten so caught up in all of this wedding stuff, that I think a lot of people forget what this is all really about–the union of two families, you can do that with 5 people in 10 minutes and it can cost less than $100…
Post # 7
My BFF got married exactly a month before me!
It was the best experience planning our weddings together and being each other’s MOHs.
We talked very openly with each other about our plans and I think that helped them to be different, because we would never want to take each other’s ideas.
Post # 8
Keep that stuff under wraps!
Post # 9
@SandAndSea: Why are you worried about that? Just becuase you share wedding details is that a big deal? Will you or her remember a few years from now? NO!
Think about all the money you can save if you split wedding decor.