(Closed) My Best Friend’s Wedding Weirdness

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

What to do?: Go along with it! lol

My best friend is getting married in October and there are tons of things i dont agree with in her wedding.

For example:

1. her color scheme is horrendous. I have tried telling her that these particular colors dont go together, but she doesnt seem to care. Its what she wants and Im not gonna changer her mind.

2. There is a random girl in her wedding that she has never met, simply because she wants the “wedding parties to be even” (so weird, right?)

3. She refuses to hire a wedding planner or day of coordinator because she feels like she can do it herself…big mistake in my opinion.


Anyways, the list goes on, but shes your friend and if she wants her wedding day full of surprises, let her! Its her day and when its your day you can do whatever you want. I have finally come to that realization lol. Good luck!

Post # 4
16 posts
  • Wedding: May 2010

That sounds pretty stressful, but on the other hand, if she isn’t stressed you should probably just go along for the ride. I wouldn’t worry about buying shoes; if you have a pair of silver and a pair of gold shoes bring both and one is bound to work. It seems like she is having a very unorthodox affair, which can be rather off-putting for planner bees (myself included!), but on the other hand, there is really no pressure on you at all! So try to enjoy that a little, and if she truly doesn’t care just follow her lead.

Sometimes I wish I didn’t care! But then FH tells me he thinks his outfit should be a suprise, and I break out in a cold sweat :~)

Post # 6
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I agree…. just take a deep breath and repeat after me “she’s my friend and it’s her day.” If its a disaster… well… not your problem!

Post # 7
2392 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It sounds like fun… a train wreck waiting to happen, but it could be fun.  It’s her wedding and she clearly wants it to be a little crazy and zany.  I can understand how she wants that and I can DEFINITELY understand how this is disconcerting to others.

Bring a couple different jewelry/hair/shoe options so you’re ready for anything and just remember that she wants to have that sort of feel for herself.  It’s her wedding and if things don’t work out, it’s her problem.  

Post # 8
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Just let it happen, maybe afterwards she will look back and realize her mistakes.  How annoying though in the meantime!

Post # 9
1103 posts
Bumble bee

She might still surprise you, I felt that way about my sister’s wedding. I felt like it was a total shambles and I had no idea what I was meant to be doing, etc. But by the time it came around I realised she was just doing it differently to me – she wasn’t nearly as disorganised as I thought, she just had a different timeline for things and there were some things she truly didn’t care about. Because she didn’t care about it, I decided not to as well. It was a wonderful wedding and hopefully your friend’s will be too 🙂

Post # 10
1336 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Sounds like a lot of work to keep it from you guys.  I could see how a bride would want some details to be left out to surprise guests, but that’s the first I hear that is that extreme.  I guess just have fun along with her. 

Post # 11
4566 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

… I would totally just let this happen, but bring a nice dress just in case you can’t breath in yours. She’ll have to deal with those consequences if they happen! I don’t think the wedding is a joke to her, but maybe she doesn’t really want a wedding and decided to be silly about it because she’s more excited about the marriage.

Post # 12
84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011


Post # 13
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

as crazy as it seems it is here day just go with it. if the dress wont fit or shoes dont match it all comes back to her.

Post # 14
390 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Haha, that’s kind of funny!

Some people LOVE the element of surprise. I dont, but I think you should just go with it! It may be annoying, but it is her day. If the dresses don’t fit, then that’s her fault. I’m sure you will look great in anything she gives you.

Maybe bring a pair of black shoes and a pair of cream shoes? Also, bring a back up dress?

That would be annoying, but I’m finding it really crazy and funny.. 🙂

Post # 15
1527 posts
Bumble bee

This post is from a year ago….the wedding has long since passed haha.

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