Post # 1
I was engaged last year, 9-11-2017 and will celebrate the happiest moment on 5-5-2019 next year. Heres the story begin, i have a best friend since my first day of university. Ever since we graduate we alway hanging arround together. My partner and I also have the biggest part oh her love of life. Long story short, she has been dating her boyfriend (which also in our inner circle in 2016). For these past 2 years, she always push her boyfriend to propose her, because all the couples in our inner circle are getting married soon.
yesterday, they went to bali and suddenly she send me her pict of her ring. It is exactly the same model as mine. I know my ring is a halo ring with one carrat solitare in the middle, it is very common ring. But how could he did it to me! I mean her boyfriend is my inner circle too, we hanging around almost every weekend, how could he did that to me!
me and my partner always push him to propose my bestfriend in a good way, tell him how to pick the engagement ring and everything, but he pick the same model as mine. I an so annoyed and angry the same time. Me and my partner only gave hin the idea, NOT to but the exactly ring as mine! I can’t barely wear my ring now. How am I supposed to face them when they are back from bali. I just cant see the same ring in her hand. It is not clothes or branded things that you can be twins with your friend. I am so annoyed!
Please tell me what to do know, Iam so mad at them right now! How to tell him to stop being a copycat!
Post # 2
llulu : Can we see your ring?
I understand how you might feel uncomfortable having an identical ring to your best friend…a lot of people want some semblance of uniqueness to their ring, especially in their circle of friends. However, when you pick a popular ring (or anything, really), this can be hard to do. A solitaire with a halo is super common right now, as you said yourself. If you picked a popular metal and a popular cut, that’s even more difficult. What if your friend wanted the same style, not because it’s yours, but because it’s what she likes?
I would feel more awkward in your friend’s shoes but this really depends on the specifics of the ring.
Post # 3
I think your reaction to this is really, really extreme. You can’t look at your ring, you can’t wear it, you can’t be around them…
You encouraged him to propose to her, you gave him your ring as inspiration, and he went with that probably thinking his girlfriend would love it.
I think you need to find out why you are having such an extreme reaction to this
Post # 4
You have an extremely basic ring. If you wanted to be the only one in your circle with that style of ring you should have gotten something more unique.
Post # 5
llulu : Your ring and relationship has no significance to her relationship and her ring. You are two different couples with different relationships. You’re putting more importance on you two having the same ring when it has no impact on your relationship. So what if she has the same ring. No it’s not clothing but I don’t understand why such an uproar when the style of ring you picked out is very common. You’re being dramatic. It may have been the style that she wanted. You don’t know.
Post # 6
As her bestfriend I don’t get why you’re having this kind of reaction. I know it’s annoying when you think someone is copying you, but she’s your best friend. Wouldn’t you be more happy for them now that they’re engaged? Also, your ring style is very common. What if she just really likes that style long before you even got engaged?
Post # 8
So? Get over it. This is such a non-issue.
Post # 9
You are being totally unreasonable. That is an extremely common and popular style. My advice is to get over it.
Post # 10
mrscb2bee : HA!
Yeah, sorry OP, I think you’re over reacting. It sounds like you have a very common and popular ring and it would stand to reason that your friend might like the same style. Be happy for your friends and move on.
Post # 11
even though this is a “new” user, the misspelling and grammar issues remind me of another poster from yesterday who had an extreme post…
Post # 12
I get being a little upset that her ring is identical to yours, but in the grand scheme of things, does this really even matter? Your reaction is way over the top.
Take a second and think about all the good in your life. You’re engaged to the love of your life, and now so is your best friend. She’s been wanting this for a while and it’s happening now! Stop focussing on one tiny little detail and start being happy for your best friend. If you cant do that, you’re really not as good of friends as you thought. Put your damn ring on, love it like you did the day before your friend got engaged and just be happy that she’s happy!
Post # 13
llulu : How old are you? You sound 12.
My ring is the exact same as my best friends, as well as god knows how many other women since it’s a plain solitaire ring. It doesn’t change how special MY ring is just because other people have the same style…
Put your ring on, be grateful, and be happy for your friend.
Post # 14
Your ring is the style that is most common right now, every single jewelry store carries it. 90% of the people engaged in the last few years probably have it. I love the style, sounds like you do too but she must too. You need to get this out of your head before you see her. Say congratulations and be happy for her. If that’s not your only reaction you are going to look petty and kind of crazy.
Post # 15
Sorry chicka, but unless you pick a super unique or custom made setting- someone is bound to have the same one.
In your case you have an EXTREMELY common setting. Like thousands and thousands have the exact same ring as you. You’re going to have to get over it.