(Closed) My BF did the “solo”… (Warning: pretty graphic!)

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Is that even physically possible for a male?

ETA: Because I was curious and google is awesome, it seems like it is possible if the lower part of the ribcage is removed OR if your boyfriend is super huge and super flexible. Either way….it’s crazy. Did he spit or swallow? I wouldn’t believe him unless he showed you that he could do it.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

apparently it is :S

if they’re big enough and flexible enough they could manage it if they wanted to 😛

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Seriously, didn’t know that was possible. I guess it isn’t any different than manual masturbation, though.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I had an ex who could reach it, not all of it, but he said he would never do it.  Hmmm…now I wonder if he did LOL

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Well, I was not expecting that when I opened this thread. Honestly, I didn’t even think that was possible without removing a few ribs.

Anyways, I don’t have any advice for you but I hope everything works out.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@mwitter80:psh, he had to have at least tried, otherwise how did he know?

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I can’t believe this is even possible.

I’m sorry, I have no advice for you because I would have the same sick to my stomach

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I had heard it was possible, but outside of rumors, had never heard of anyone who actually had done it.  

My first reaction is that every guy would do it if they could. If my husband had told me he’d done it in the past, I’d have asked him to show me…partly because I’d not believe he was that flexible and partly just because I’d want to see.  It would not bother me at all…to me, it’s not much different than a guy using his hand to do the same thing…and I like to watch him do that.

But it does bother you.  I suppose you can either just tell yourself that it is something in his past that won’t happen again and treat it like anything else he’s done in the past you aren’t thrilled with (i.e., like ex-gfs).   He did say he only did it once; it isn’t like he made a habit of it.  Apparently, since he never tried it a second time, he didn’t like it all that much either, so I doubt it’s going to be an issue.  Eventually, with time, the thought will fade.

Or maybe you could try to to change the way you see it.  It was really just another method of masturbation for him. And it sounds like he was just doing it to see if it was possible?  Maybe just chalk it up to youthful indiscretion and focus more on the fact that he has so much  trust in you that he felt comfortable telling you his most embarassing secret.  That is what I’d think about.  The trust he has for you and what that says about the bond you two have.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

wow… I wouldnt know how to react to this

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Helenberrycrunch: I was thinking the same thing!

@OP: I find it strange that you would be watching tv and out of nowhere he drops that bomb on you. “hey hunny, btw did I mention that I’ve given myself a blowy? Pass the popcorn.”. Weird.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Neva: I agree with you.

It’s probably hard to get over the visual and everything, so I don’t blame you for being disgusted, but it sounds like he only tried it once and was pretty disgusted with himself, so maybe try and get it out of your head.

 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

i honestly have no idea what to say to this, you obviously are having a hard time with this, so maybe because he felt comfortable enough to tell you, you need to be comfortable telling him how you feel. take time to figure out what you want to say, then talk to him. I think the only way that you are going to embarass him is if you totally freak out on him

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