Post # 1
My Boyfriend or Best Friend is only 28 and it was confirmed today that he has testicular cancer. He works out every day and we both eat so well. He is going to a specialist to find out if it’s spreaded to his lymphatic system.
I feel AWFUL that I have been on WB complaining about our timeline and my fertility running out before he is “ready” to propose. My Boyfriend or Best Friend has CANCER and here I am bitching about a stupid engagement. I just vented on here like 2 days ago. God I feel like an absolute bitch 🙁 🙁
We were fooling around on Saturday and I felt a lump on his scrotum area. I joked that he must be really horny because he was so swollen. Afterward, we both noted that the swelling and lumpiness did not go away after we “finished”. (Sorry TMI). That’s when he made the appointment. He works in a pathology lab in a hospital and sees this all the time. He wasted no time getting himself checked. I love him for being so smart.
This will do a number on our chances of ever conceiving. If he gets chemotherapy, fertility is at risk. However, I will forego any chance of a child with him as long as he is OKAY. It REALLY put my “waiting” into perspective. Until now, my “waiting” anxiety was all around my biological clock (I will be 33 soon). Now, whatever. I know my SO wants kids so sperm banking may be a necessity for us.
Just making a random post. It’s late and I can not sleep.
I love the hive. You guys are the best!
Post # 3
@Mrs. Harmony: I’m sure theres the option to freeze sperm before any treatment is to take place. I’m so sorry about the bad news though. I wish him a speedy and healthy recovery. Stay strong!
Post # 4
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Wow I am just utterly shocked. I read your rant the other day and this completely threw me for a loop. Good for him for going to get it checked out so quickly. I’m sorry about the bad news, but the good news is that it’s been detected and diagnosed, and now it can get treated.
A happy story for you:
a couple of newlyweds in my town got the devastating news that the husband (only 23) had a vicious form of melanoma, and a giant tumor in his lung. In his interviews, he said he was likely going to die. But he beat it. Somehow, he beat it. Literally against all odds. He no longer needs treatments, and they are expecting their first baby next month, something that they thought the treatment would have ruined for them.
Wishing you all the very best!
Post # 5
I am so sorry hun. Good thing you noticed and he got checked right away and thanks for sharing. Awareness is key.
You two will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Post # 6
*hugs* Don’t feel badly about venting about what is important to you. It’s ok to have multiple priorities- you’re just ready for the next steps in life. True, this diagnosis puts into perspective what is truly #1 and that is your SO in your life. He can beat this. You’ll get through it together. I pray for him a speedy recovery and kicking cancer’s ass!
Post # 7
I’m sorry – thats really hard. Cancer sucks, no ifs ands or buts about it. He’s very lucky that he found it and got diagnosed right away.
BUT – sperm banking is absolutely an option, and the majority of men regain fertility if there are no additional complications.
best wishes to both of you.
Post # 8
I’m so sorry, and don’t feel guilty or like a bad person for venting – we all need to vent sometimes, and wanting to move forward with a timeline is normal. But you’re right that something like this definitely puts everything into perspective and the focus on what is really important. Best of luck to the two of you, I hope it is contained to one area and easily removable – please keep us updated!