Post # 1
Sorry, I accidently posted this in another board. I consider this a “waiting” post so here I am repeating my story…
My Boyfriend or Best Friend is only 28 and it was confirmed today that he has testicular cancer. He works out every day and we both eat so well. He is going to a specialist to find out if it’s spreaded to his lymphatic system.
I feel AWFUL that I have been on WB complaining about our timeline and my fertility running out before he is “ready” to propose. My Boyfriend or Best Friend has CANCER and here I am bitching about a stupid engagement. I just vented on here like 2 days ago. God I feel like an absolute bitch 🙁 🙁
We were fooling around on Saturday and I felt a lump on his scrotum area. I joked that he must be really horny because he was so swollen. Afterward, we both noted that the swelling and lumpiness did not go away after we “finished”. (Sorry TMI). That’s when he made the appointment. He works in a pathology lab in a hospital and sees this all the time. He wasted no time getting himself checked. I love him for being so smart.
This will do a number on our chances of ever conceiving. If he gets chemotherapy, fertility is at risk. However, I will forego any chance of a child with him as long as he is OKAY. It REALLY put my “waiting” into perspective. Until now, my “waiting” anxiety was all around my biological clock (I will be 33 soon). Now, whatever. I know my SO wants kids so sperm banking may be a necessity for us.
Just making a random post. It’s late and I can not sleep.
I love the hive. You guys are the best!
Post # 3
I am so sorry. Please keep us updated. You will both be in my thoughts and prayers. ((hugs))
Post # 4
I’m really sorry to hear about this. I wish you guys all the best. Please keep us posted!
Post # 5
I am very sorry to hear this. Strength and support are key at times like these. 🙂
Post # 6
I’m willing you peace and strength right now! Hopefully you guys caught it at an early stage and it won’t be too tough of a recovery process. (I think it’s a good sign that he’s in such great shape already– and, as you said, really smart that he got it checked out right away.) We love you, too!
Post # 7
Sending prayers for you both !!
Post # 8
Wow, I am so incredibly sorry. You guys will be in my thoughts and prayers! Please keep us updated!
Post # 9
I am so sorry!! I hope everything was caught early and is easily treatable…
Also, I know your brains are going to be focused on him getting better and maybe not on your future, but kids don’t have to be out of the picture… Think about freezing some of his sperm before treatment just incase. A lot of women get their eggs harvested before undergoing chemo just in case.
I hope your Boyfriend or Best Friend has an easy and speedy recovery.
Post # 10
I love you guys!
This has done wonders for our relationship. He’s talking marriage, etc. nonstop. It’s ME that’s totally not thinking of it. I am desperate to help him with his recovery!
I have a lot of training in Nutrition,and I’ve been researching like crazy different alternative treatments to supplement his radiation/chemo. I am actually going back to school in March for this very thing. I don’t want to sit around and cry. My boyfriend is so weak and scared. I have to be strong for him.
I’m going to start growing wheatgrass and making vitamin C solutions for him out of soy lecithin and vitamin C powder. There’s an ultrasonic cleaner that is used for it. This I’m only doing because of his cancer, but I recommend this for everyone just for general health! You would never have to buy Vitamin C again 🙂
Post # 11
Wow, I can’t even imagine what you and your boyfriend are going through right now. This is obviously everyone’s worst nightmare; a seemingly small issue suddenly being diagnosed as cancer. Just know that you guys are in my thoughts and I’m hoping that the prognosis is good for your boyfriend. Things like this definitely put all those little life annoyances into perspective. It just sucks finding that out the hard way. Sending good thoughts your way.
Post # 12
So sorry *hugs* sending you positive vibes!
Post # 13
I’m so sorry to hear this. Good for you for sticking by him. As far as fertility goes, hear out the dr’s. My dad had testicular cancer and had one testicle removed, but they still concieved my baby brother after with no problems.
Post # 14
I’m so sorry to hear this! A friend of mine’s boyfriend had cancer, and when they caught it, it was so advanced that they started treatment immediately — before they could even think about sperm banking. My advice, similar to another bee above, would be to do the sperm banking immediately before starting chemo. The doctors may want to rush him — they (like you) are just concerned about helping him get better. Before they treat him, ask to speak with a fertility counselor. You’ll be in my thoughts!
Post # 15
I’m so sorry you and your Boyfriend or Best Friend are going through this. I’m proud of him for going to get it checked out, and for you being so observant to bring the lump to his attention. The two of you will get through this. I am thinking of you both.
Post # 16
I am so sorry you guys are going through this – may good health be restored to him, and may this not complicate your journey to starting a family.