(Closed) My bf hints about marriage but no action

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
4151 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Be patient.  It’s been 18 months with no proposal since he asked my Dad for his blessing.  Also, discuss a timeline.  Communicatiion is key to getting on the same page.  Good luck and welcome to the hive 🙂

Post # 4
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

What you should do depends on some things.

Do you want to have children with this man?

Post # 6
1526 posts
Bumble bee

I would wait longer. Try Mr. Bee’s plan and just don’t talk about it. Do things for you. I’m sorry your family is asking out about it so much, but guys take awhile to propose for various reasons. If he’s hinting at it being soon, just be patient. 

Post # 7
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

First and foremost…

I see that this is your premier posting on WBee… so a BIG Welcome to “The Hive”

It sounds like you “casually” talk about the future from time to time.

But is that enough ?

In your situation at over 30 and wanting kids, probably not.

Men don’t think like women… because they don’t hear “their biological clock ticking” they can technically father children their whole lives so they just don’t get the urgency…

They feel like “someday” getting married is just that… SOMEDAY in the future

IF you really want to marry him (and your post seems to wobble a bit on that front) then you need to tell him so

The next time “the future / someday” comes up casually in conversation, you need to initiate a more indepth conversation about YOUR TIMELINE… how you envision your life unfolding say over the next 5 to 10 years.

Guys don’t get how things work… especially not Engagements – Weddings – and female reproduction

He probably thinks he’ll propose one month, and you guys will marry the next (men when they DO PROPOSE tend to be very much in a hurry… almost as if they’ve now made up their mind that they’ve found THE ONE that they are afraid you’ll leave / change your mind).  There are many Brides-2-B who can tell you how they had to slow their guys down (bring them down to earth) and explain that planning a wedding takes time… 6 months is hard, 9 to 12 easier, and over 12 for many more realistic (if you want a good sized family wedding).

I myself am planning an Elopement to a Destination Wedding (just the 2 of us) and we’ve been engaged since April (ring bought first week of June) … and still I’m stressed with all the things that I have had to do… and the many that still remain unfinished (including the Back Home Reception that happens after we get home from the Honeymoon)

Weddings are a lot of work !!

As is having children… and getting pregnant… take a read at the Baby Boards here on WBee for more info on that.

If you guys want to have kids and enjoy them while you are young, you’ll want to get going on that aspect soon (at least before you are 35)

Hope this helps,

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