(Closed) My BF Lied About A Proposal

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 31
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Sugar bee

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@foreverwaiting31:  no one tagged you… you updated about your Christmas non proposal in the wrong thread and then went back and edited your comment once you realized your mistake. But some of us saw your original comment before you edited it sooo… #whoops

Honestly I don’t think you should be embarrassed about having two diff usernames, who cares? Your attempt at a cover up is more embarrassing especially after people took time to give you genuine advice based on your original comment. 

Post # 32
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Sugar bee

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@foreverwaiting31:  I never said anything about a fake account. YOU were the one posting an update to your other thread on THIS thread. No one posted about getting a pillow this year but you. You weren’t tagged, you posted from your account. So if you have multiple accounts, my point was that you failed to mention this had been going on for so long in your current thread. 

Regardless, you need to leave this guy NOW. Don’t wait any longer.

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee

It’s been 8 years, OP. Time to move on. 

Post # 34
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Sugar bee

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@mrsceebee:  he gave her a pillow and an action figure he wanted. When she asked about the ring, he said she misunderstood and never said he WOULD get the ring by Christmas, but that he COULD. Now she *may* go looking for apartments on her own soon.

Post # 35
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Busy bee

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@mrsaime:  Thanks for that. Isn’t he some prize. 

 

OP I hope you’re packing your bags and not dithering any further. I know the pandemic and lockdowns make it difficult to just move but you should be completely done with him now and on your way out the door to whoever you can stay with. He must be seriously sick in the head to keep doing these things.

 

 

 

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Daaaammmnnn!  This is just sad.  Eight years of lying and stringing along and you STILL can’t make a decision.  Looks like he’s not the only one who doesn’t value you bee.

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

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@foreverwaiting31:  I posted a comment on your other thread about your BF promising to propose on Christmas. You posted an update on here but either way, I assume your boyfriend did not propose yesterday so you need to leave ASAP. I’ve never heard of a man proposing then taking it back then promising to propose then taking it back. This situation is weird and sad. You deserve better…please pack your bags.

Post # 38
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Buzzing bee

I’m sorry bee, but at this point you are doing this to yourself. 

He treats you like this because he knows you’ll let him. He will never be the guy you want. Even if he did propose to you, your relationship has already been ruined by his manipulation and games. A ring would be a bandaid. I know you don’t want to admit this but your relationship has been dead for a long, long time. 

I hope you are able to realize it sooner rather than later so that you can still have time to build a life for yourself. 

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

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@foreverwaiting31:  I am not sure how this thread got updated- were you maybe looking at this one in commiseration and accidentally updated instead of your original thread?

 

This is not the OP that wrote this original thread. Promise Ring/Christmas Pillow OP does have two usernames, but both her usernames reference a three year relationship- and this one was 5 years, posted three years ago. Hopefully this thread OP kicked her boyfriend to the curb and is now living her best life.

 

As to the poster I tagged- your boyfriend either doesn’t think you have the strength to leave him, no matter what he does, or he is secretly hoping you WILL leave him. Or he doesn’t care if you do, at least. So consider this- if him continuing to mock and humiliate you isn’t enough to get you to leave, consider that you could put up with this longer and then he could still end up leaving you. This is not someone who respects you or even gives a shit about you.

 

And really? a pillow? He couldn’t even try and soften the blow with an actual nice present? He’s laughing at you. Consider that he’s probably yukking it up with his buddies about how you were expecting a ring and he got you a fucking pillow.

Post # 40
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

Closing – foreverwaiting is not OP

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