(Closed) My BF used to tell people I was ugly before we got together!

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 121
12651 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Wishing you well. You know him best and I have no doubt you made the right decision. My hunch is that this incident has made you look back with more open eyes  and that there have been other clues that were ignored along the way. 

Post # 122
395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

weddingmaven:  Oh that was a huge issue for me too. In fact this happened right before my birthday and as a way to be a good girlfriend I was going to invite this couple along with his other friends to MY birthday. He kept trying to discourage me by saying that he is not that close with this couple before I found out the truth, even though we hung out with them as much as with anyone else. And this girl used to ask me about our relationship and of course as you can imagine the conversations I had with her were very different than had I known that she was an ex. All his other friends also obviously knew cause one of them was the person who hooked them up, yet everyone let me make a fool of myself. After that all of his friends were uninvited to my birthday. Since then I also completely distanced myself from all his friends (he used to hang out with them EVERY single weekend), I never told him he couldn’t hang out with them but I made it clear that I had no intention of trying to befriend anyone on his behalf.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 10 months ago by  bzbride2277.
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Post # 123
3064 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

IndecisiveBee123:  Its not that he just thought you weren’t good looking, he chose to talk about it in an asshole way to other people

Hes a huge ass. I would dump him and move on to someone who thinks highly of you enough to not disrespect you/ thinks your beautiful!!!!

Post # 124
938 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

IndecisiveBee123:  Mature people don’t have to knock other people down to help rise up.


I don’t care if this was 2, 5, or 10 years ago.  If you’re an individual who had to knock people down and you made comments about me, personally… you don’t deserve me.

Edit: Read the updated. Right on sister. You deserve so much better.

Post # 125
609 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

What a tough situation. I’m very sorry.

I think you should focus on your relationship in the present. I’m sure your friend and your other sources are being honest, but it’s hearsay at the end of day.

Does your Boyfriend or Best Friend make you feel unattractive? Did hearing that illuminate feelings/thoughts you’ve already had about his attraction to you? If so…that’s another story. But if this feels like it came out of nowhere and you’re happy in your relationship, it’s kind of irrelevent. Dragging the past into the future generally doesn’t end well (at least in my experience).


Ah, saw your updates- disregard then. Wishing you well!

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Post # 126
730 posts
Busy bee

I give you a ton of credit for being so strong

Post # 127
2129 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016


IndecisiveBee123:  Good for you!!  Yes, you absolutely deserve someone who thinks you’re beautiful! And now you’ve opened the door for that person to come into your life by removing the person that didn’t deserve you.

My Fiance has told other people I’m the most beautiful woman he has seen (it has gotten back to me). Now I know I’m not the most beautiful woman he has seen but it still made me smile when I heard it…and you deserve to hear the same thing coming from your partner. 

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