Post # 1
I missed al call from my bff last night and her message was super sad. She started out saying…
“I don’t know how to tell you this, but I can’t make it to your final dress fitting tomorow or your wedding. I am so sorry!”
She went on to tell me how her dads wife who has stage 4 lung cancer had taken a turn for the worse and might not even make it through the night. She was hopping the first plane to Seattle in the morning.
I am so sad for her. She just lost her own mother last year and it has taken it’s toll on her with siblings fighting for her money ect.
This is a girl that is ALWAYS happy! and not in the annoying way.
I am going to miss her terribly. Besides my Fiance, she is my best friend my rock. I have no family coming to the wedding (besides my kids) and I just feel lost knowing she can’t be there.
I feel guilty for feeling sad for me when I know the pain she is feeling and of coarse I am sad for everthing she is going through. I already miss my best friend. 🙁 🙁 🙁
Post # 3
Awww hun, I am so sorry to hear that 🙁 *hugs*
Post # 4
You’ll have to utilize the BFF ‘spirit bond’ two way street style – that you are there for her in Seattle during this horrible time, and that she is with you for you during this joyous time.
I’m sorry you can’t have her there in person, but maybe you can focus on ways to show her afterwards that she was in your thoughts during the wedding – pictures or a note or something? This will hopefully help you ‘feel’ her being there and will be of great comfort to her during the sad time she will experience over the next little while.
Good Luck Bee, and be strong for you both!
Post # 5
Oh dear…………i am so sorry :-(…..but why are your kids the only family you’re having? Is it just you and the priest/official???
We decided on a small wedding, just the close family so we will be 50. No friends..and thsi was tough as i went to most of their weddings. Plus..my once-upon-a-time best friend hasn’t even answered my mail, where i tell her about the wedding :-(..i guess she’s so hurt with me (about not contact her when she comes here – she lives in London and the fact that she wasn’t invited..) she thinks i don’t deserve an answer :-(. THis is terrible and i feel miserable about it..and this wonderful, strong, laughing person doesn’t deserve it :-(..so at least you are ok with your bff and who knows maybe you can be together just after the wedding
Post # 6
I was already thinking that maybe I could make a big sign that says Miss you *Jane* (not her real name) or wish you were here! IDK? I don’t want it to make her more sad or be tacky.
Post # 7
I can’t imagine how you must be feeling right now. I know I’d be devastated as well if my BFF couldn’t make it to the wedding. I don’t have any suggestions but whatever you do at least you know she’ll love it. She’s your BFF after all, and it’ll definitely help cheer her up after such a rough time with her stepmom.
Could you maybe have her listen in during the ceremony? Have someone hold a phone on speakphone or even have it in your FI’s pocket?
Post # 8
@Rivendeler: “Oh dear…………i am so sorry :-(…..but why are your kids the only family you’re having? Is it just you and the priest/official???”
It’s long and complicated but my parents and half sister and I ended our relationship a few years ago and both my parents ended their relationship with each or their parents years ago too. So I have no grandparents, parents cousins aunts or anything.
I do have my brother who is coming and I love him but we are not very close. He also ended his relationship with them years ago. This all stems from abuse in our childhoods.
My FIs family wil be there and it is HUGE but it’s not the same.
Post # 9
@LiliKitty: that’s a good idea. maybe…I’ll have to be careful tho because I won’t know what’s happening at that moment. Her dads wife is in the hospital in critical condition. I’m sure she will be by her side the whole time.
Post # 10
🙁 I’m so sorry your friend can’t be there! ((Hugs))
Post # 11
🙁 I’m so sorry that she can’t be there, and also that she’s going through such a tough time!
Post # 12
Oh my.... that is..incredible..can’t immagine family breaking up like this, but i guess it depends on the families, right? If abuse is involved then your family should be the one you love and love you back.
Post # 13
I’m sorry. This is so sad for everyone involed. I with my best to you and your bbf 🙁
Post # 14
I just got an RSVP back from one of my closest friends as well, who is taking care of her ailing mother and can’t make it.
My plan is to bring a picture of her to the stagette and the wedding, and will have it strategically posed for some pictures, so I can send them to her later.
I think your idea of making a sign, or doing something special in her honor would be very sweet.
Post # 15
I’m so sorry :(.My friends can’t come either, I know how much that sucks. I’ve cried about it several times. Only my mom and sister will be there for me. All FI’s family and friends will be there since it’s a lot closer for them. It stinks, but we’re having a party later on closer to my friends and family later on.
Post # 16
She will be with you in spirit and she wants you to enjoy and have your very special day with your husband 🙂 The best way to honor her is to know that she is in your heart and you are in hers. Then schedule some time to see her after the wedding to hug and cry over her hurts and celebrate your day. I know you are sad and wish you could be with her but she does not want to take away from your joy.
HUGS Sweetheart – 4 more days