(Closed) My Big Fat Armenian Wedding! Eeek, help!

posted 10 years ago in Venue
Post # 3
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2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Well, first of all, I wouldn’t get rushed into signing anything.  Your Future Mother-In-Law clearly has some really different ideas (from yours) and it sounds like you are not going to be happy with the same things that would be just fine for her.

While it’s great that she’s excited about your wedding, that doesn’t mean that you have to have the kind of reception/ceremony that she wants.  It sounds like you’re trying to compromise, which is great.  And a 90 minute drive doesn’t make it impossible to scout locations.  Many will have websites, and you can line up appointments all on one day with whichever look the best and drive there.  (At least you don’t have to get on a plane, right?  And the price of gas keeps going down.)

You haven’t said how your Fiance feels about all this.  Does he want the big, loud, strip-mall reception, or is he more about the smaller and quieter event that you initially planned?  I think that his opinion is important, especially since it’s his mom who is wanting something different.

Post # 4
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Newbee

I’m Armenian, so I understand. Maybe you can compromise and either have the wedding at the Armenian Church and then your reception at your choice of a more intimate venue (maybe a winery…grapes are part of many Armenian customs). Or the other way around, have your ceremony at a more intimate setting of your choice and then a reception at a large hall to accomodate the dancing. I think there’s room to make everyone happy. Or you can do everything at your intimate venue choice, but make extra effort to include some Armenian customs (food, music, folk dancers, etc.) as part of the celebration.

p.s. If you choose to do your venue choice, maybe have your Mother-In-Law coordinate a fabulous rehearsal dinner at an Armenian Restaurant or the strip mall place with dancing, etc. Let her run with that rather than the wedding.

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