(Closed) My birthday is next week….

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Why don’t you talk to your FI? Tell him that you’d love a “date day” for your bday. Do you have any friends who could babysit for you?

If you can’t afford to go out to eat, maybe make food together (food that you like) & have a picnic style dinner or lunch. If DS needs a pork chop, maybe make one the day before & reheat it the day of. Or maybe the babysitter could do that?

Even with no money, you still can have a great bday… but it sounds like you’re more upset because your family & Fiance really don’t do anything for you. I guess if they’re used to you as the planner, than no one else is used to planning things? Could you start planning the family parties with another family member? That way you have help & its not all on you? I’m sorry though :(.

Post # 4
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653 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m sorry you aren’t able to do what you want to do but you can make it fun! Go to the store buy some cheap cake mix, some baking chocolate, sprinles whatever you guys like and make it a fun activity you can do with both your son and Fiance or ask your Fiance to cook and bake with your son while you take a nice bath or just do whatever. I know its bummer you can’t go out but you can always turn it around! 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@canthugallcats: These are great ideas!

And I totally get what you mean about working hard to put in the effort to make other’s peoples extra days special, it’s so disappointing and can make you really angry when they don’t do the same for you. I’d speak up now and let your Fiance know that you don’t expect him to spend a ton of money, but you put a lot of effort into making sure everyone else’s special days are nice and would appreciate some effort. Have a friend babysit, he can make an (inexpensive dinner), put in your favorite movie even if it’s not his fave, and he can sing you happy birthday and give you massages and whatever. Thoughtful and nice does not have to mean expensive! But if you keep this inside I just know it’ll ruin your day, so speak up!

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