- 8 years ago
- Wedding: February 2011
Okay. I’m not native English speaker so Please understand
if I have grammar mistakes from this post.
I’m a bride to be in Feb.2011. We are going to have about 50 ppl small wedding.
My Fiance is going to have two groomsmen (his brothers)and I asked two friends to be my BMs.
They said yes!
1. My wedding theme color is Navy and hot pink. I asked them
What do you think about navy color dress and one of them said “Awk! I hate blue /navy.
I never ever wear blue color clothes. so ugly.” I said okay, then wear pink.
(**If I’m a Bridesmaid or Best Man for my friend’s wedding and she want me to wear yellow dress(I hate yellow) I will just wear it without saying anything, if she want me to dance when I walk
down the aisle, I will dance.)
2. I asked her many times “Are you going to be okay buying a dress from your pocket?”
and she said” Yes! sure!” I said I will pay for the makeup, hair, flowers, and jewelry.
The reason I asked her, I know she is full time student, working part time. I didn’t want her to feel uncomfortable spending money on a dress because of me. I searched some dresses and I saw some pretty ones that under $100.
I told her and she said ” yes! that’s fine.”
2. I have short time planning a wedding. I had to rush the order for my wedding dress. I knew it will be hard to buy a bm’s dress from bridal shop so we decided to go
buy the dress from macy’s or jc penny’s… She (the BM) made the plan “A MONTH AGO” to go for dress shopping this weekend. It was 4 weeks ago! and I said… sure…
She texted me today. said “So, we are gonna go for dress shopping this weekend? Are you going to buy a dress that day? I don’t think I’m going to have money to buy the dress”
I said “Okay, I asked you so many times if you can buy a dress or not.
I already met florist and had to decided what kind of bouquets you should have when you don’t have bm’s dress. I can’t just deal with this anymore. you should’ve told me when I asked you many times. I could figure out something else..”
I did not ask them to do anything else.
I told them I don’t need bridal shower or anything fancy.
Only thing I need is buying the bm’s dress and show up at the wedding date.
What should I do if the bm’s saying that she doesn’t have $100 (I know it is a lot of money. I ‘m not saying $100 is like $10 to me. ) to buy a dress.
I wish I can pay for it but… 🙁 I have my budget too.
there is more stories but I couldn’t write all the details.
Am I want so many things / too much from her? What should I do?