Post # 1
So most of my 4 Bridesmaid or Best Man have been great with the wedding plans, and events. Although one never seems to be around unless we are doing something for the wedding (which isn’t too bad). But my one Bridesmaid or Best Man is an amaing gal, and has been great with helping me pick my dress, invites, everything. The only thing is about 2 weeks ago she tells me she can’t come to my shower. I guess her work won’t give it to her off. I mean I understand that her job is important, but she calls in sick whenever she doesn’t feel like going in normally. I just thought she would tell me that she would call in sick for work so she could come. She knew about the shower in advance, and had booked it off, but now they changed her schedule. She said that no on can switch with her, but I’m just a little sad considering I’m only having one shower and I really wanted her to be there. Am I little vain because I would want her to call in sick? I mean I would for a friend.
Post # 3
Aww, that’s a bummer, but I am glad you’re getting support otherwise =) My bridesmaids are awesome people, but all long distance and I doubt there will even be a shower, which is no biggie really, but it is what it is!
Post # 4
You would call in sick to work and risk your job for a shower of a friend? More power to you, but I would never consider doing that. I would try and switch shifts, etc. but I would never but my job in jeopardy for something like that. Especially in this job market. I wouldn’t call you vain, but I would say you’re being a little selfish. You said it yourself that she’s been helping a lot.
Post # 5
2 out of four of my maids couldn’t make it to my shower. One was travelling for work and one couldn’t get off work to travel down the day before. Would it have been great if they could come? Yeah. But it was fine. I understood they had other commitments. Don’t push the issue. I’d do my best to make it to a shower but I don’t know if I’d necessarily call in sick either.
Post # 6
2 out of my 6 BM’s can’t come to my shower due to them living in other states. i’m cool with it. they have been a big help. i don’t expect them to fly in for it at all.
Post # 7
I agree with the others I wouldn’t get mad at her for not being able to come to a shower. My Bridesmaid or Best Man couldn’t come to my engagement party because she had a prior commitment. I was sad she couldn’t make it but understood. I’m throwing her bridal shower next month and two bridesmaids can’t come. One has to attend her sister’s 40th birthday party and the other has another shower to co-host. I think you should be thankful she has helped out with the wedding. Maybe she doesn’t have any more sick days to use at work, or maybe things at work have changed and she doesn’t feel comfortable asking off any more. Regardless it is just the bridal shower you’ll have other chances to celebrate your big day with her, example, bach party and rehearsal dinner and the day of the wedding.
Post # 8
Your BM’s work knows about her request for the day off … when she calls in sick ‘whenever’, they don’t know that she had wanted the day off. It’s different.
Life happens and it gets in the way of things. One of my BMs missed my shower, my ‘jack and jill’ (kinda like an engagement party) and my bachelorette. She’s a pediatrician, and she was on call for all those week-ends. She’s on call every other week-end, and there are only 2 people she can switch with. And she can’t call in sick.
Your Bridesmaid or Best Man had requested the day off, and she did everything she could to get it off by switching shifts. I’m sure she is upset she can’t attend.
Post # 9
Yeah I understand that, and I never said anything to her. I told her I understood, I’m just sad she can’t come. I was just thrown off when she told me, and because she has called in for shifts just to go out, I assumed she would. But it’s true that they would realize she was already trying to have that day off, so they might get mad.
Post # 10
Do you want an honest reply to your question of are you being vain? Because if not please discontinue reading.
You are being self centered. This person has apparently helped you do a lot for your wedding already. I know it may seem like she can take off just whenever but work situations vary. And if her boss has said no and she just calls in sick then that is really pushing work boundries. And you are asking a lot for her to take more time off for your shower. Since Christmas I have been in a wedding, have started planning my wedding and I am in my best friends wedding this fall. So I am coming from the bride and bridesmaid perspective. While it would be nice for her to be there, honestly I hardly even had a chance to speak to any of my bridesmaids at my shower because I was so busy speaking with other guest that I didn’t get to see as often. I say give the girl a break and focus on how much she has helped you already.