- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
( that acronym stands for what would YOU do? )
I hate to complain, but I’m really at a loss. I asked my three closest freinds to be my BMs, and didn’t ask any of them to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, at the time I didn’t realize the role of the Maid/Matron of Honor, and how helpful it is to have just one go-to gal (I thought it was clique-y and like saying THIS friend of mine is MORe special to me than the others… and I didn’t want that)
anyway, now I’m realizing which of the gals is basically going to be acting as my Maid/Matron of Honor, since she’s organized, a bit better off financially than the other two, and is generally a mature, fantastic lady. She’s easy going, and has not argued with me over the dress issue.
but the other two! One says she hates the whole, cookie cutter matchy bridesmaid dress thing, and the other says she refuses to wear blue. (my colours are teal and tangerine, aka light blue and orange, haha)
I felt sad that I couldn’t have my vision of my ladies in matching dresses, but since I’m trying to be the best bride-friend ever (this is all our first times in these roles) and not have them spend a lot on something they’ll never wear again, I tried to compromise. I told them they could wear black, and I’d add my colours with shawls, accessories, etc.
Now, the one who hates “cookie cutter” says, great! I have a dress that will work. So now they won’t be the same style? I see pictures, and I guess it can work…
Thing is, it’s a summer wedding, and I’d really prefer it to be colourful! I find myself drooling over the Jade and Oasis dresses from David’s Bridal, and they carry a lot that’s under $150. I’m starting to feel like I should gently, but assertively, say that I want to cross the border to the US and actually go to a DB or other bridal store and at least get dresses in a matching colour.
Should this matter to me, let it bother me? Will it just be better if I let them call the shots? What elements should I “enforce”, colour or style, or just colour?