(Closed) My BM’s invite was just returned, marked as “wrong address”….

posted 9 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I am so with you on opening mail not addressed to you. I do accounts payable and receiveable for my family business.  Just last month I had 10 accounts that were past due.  So I called them asking for payment status.  All of them said they had mailed me a check on the same days.  The following week I go to the PO Box and in there is a stack of opened mail paperclipped together.  It was all the checks that had been missing.  They even endorsed them on the back.

How in the world could someone, a) not notice 10 pieces of mail not addressed to them b) open them and then try to cash them!


Who knows if she’s the one that opened it. But why send it back if you don’t plan to go, why not just toss it in the trash. 


Post # 4
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That is so odd!  But, I wouldn’t assume she opened it because I had a roommate that would open ANYTHING addressed to someone else.  Some people are simply nosy.  If you’re positive you sent it to the correct address, nothing was spelled incorrectly, no numbers were off then there is a problem.  Since she’s also not answering her phone you’re gonna have to be direct.  Leave her a message saying that you’ve been trying to get a hold of her to no avail, you want to make sure everything’s alright and you need to speak to her about the wedding.  You don’t have much time, but I wouldn’t stress it just yet, maybe she’s going through something? 

Weddings do really bring out strange characteristics in peoples personalities!  They should do a study on it, I bet they have already!

Post # 5
900 posts
Busy bee

I just moved and we have gotten bills from the past residents.  But we are also getting tons of ads and junk mail from local businesses.  So I have accidentally opened their mail because I just saw it was from a local electric company or something and didn’t scrutinize the address.  I guess I just assume that if it is in my mailbox, it is for me.  But it is always an accident.

Post # 6
2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I had my parents next door neighbor’s invite returned.  The people lived next door to me for my entire life- their address was correct.

I took it back to the post office and demanded that they send it again because the address was correct.  So with nasty black marker, the PO worker scribbled all over it and tossed it in with the mail.  I felt really bad- it looked hideous.  If I had known he was going to deface it, I’d have purchased a new stamp!

Post # 7
4382 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

That’s really, really strange. Especially since it was opened!

Post # 8
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’ve gotten stuff addressed to me that has been opened. Sometimes wonder if it isn’t the machines or the mailmen/women. Maybe your envolopes were so pretty they wanted to see inside! Wink

As for the Bridesmaid or Best Man, call her, email her, do whatever to get ahold of her. That is strange she has been MIA for awhile and you need to know she is 1) ok and 2) still going to be in the wedding

Post # 9
3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Um that is really fishy.

You’re sure its the right address & she’s avoiding your calls? Does she live near you? Can you stop by to see whats up?

I don’t know why weddings bring out the crazy in everyone.

Hmm perhaps your wedding is just too much for her financially & she doesn’t want to tell you? If you didn’t have some major falling out this behaviour is really strange…

Post # 11
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My neighbour had a bad habit of sending back mail accidently placed in his mailbox as “wrong address” … yes he even opened some of it, and instead of walking it next door he sent it back … he was an @$$hole!

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