(Closed) My body, my baby, my birth… What are your thoughts? Serious Q's

posted 8 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
9129 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Wait as long as possible to go to the hospital to increase your chances of succeeding in having a fully natural childbirth.  The earlier you go the more likely they are to intervene in the process to speed things along.  It also helps to get a doctor or midwife that supports your decision to go natural.  Do any of the local hospitals have an attached birthing center where you can labor and deliver naturally (that way you would only be moved to the hospital delivery room if there are issues)?

If your mom and husband aren’t comfortable making your preferences known to the nurses and doctors during labor and delivery, a doula might help.  Plus, she can assist you with feeling calmer and safer during labor.

Post # 4
820 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I am also opting for a natural birth and have been reading the Bradley method books along with a few other natural birth favorites. I presented my birth plan to my OB at my las appt (35 weeks) and this is what she had to say

 IV’s mandatory? Hep-lock ok? I can have a saline lock as long as I don’t require artificial augmentation or choose in the end to go with an epidural, I would then require a continuous infusion

 How long you can labor for before being induced? We actually did not discuss this, but I don’t plan on going to the hospital until I am well into th second emotional sign post, so hopefully this will not be an issue

 Can you eat and drink? Yes

 Fetal monitoring? Intermittent

 How long will they let you push for? We did not discuss, but standard around here is 2-3 hours

 Are episiotomies routine? No, and I requested that I be allowed to tear rather than have an episiotomie and she did not disagree

 Laboring and pushing in any/many positions? I can labour as I wish, the hospital I’m birthing at has birthing balls, jacuzzi tubs etc. Pushing was not discussed

 Any perineal support? Not discussed

 Delayed cord clamping? She stated that the new pediatric recommendation is 2 minutes, and was happy that I requested to delay if those are our wishes as she said “we as doctors tend to cut the cord quickly, so it’s good to know your wishes”

 How long do I have to produce the placenta? Not discussed

 Pitocin after birth? Only in the event of severe bleeding

 Vitamin K, eye ointments, Hep B, immediate bath? All of these treatments are post-poned for at least an hour usually 2. The bath does not occur until the following day. 


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Post # 5
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Miss. RubyLove:  I agree with pp but I also suggest talking to your dr beforehand and seeing what he/she says and go from there. Every dr and hospital is different with the things you listed. Take me and my sister we each have two kids and live in different areas at my hospital as long as we didn’t have a epidural you could push any way you wanted while at my sisters didn’t matter you were stuck in the bed the whole time. A talk with your doc should help alot. Congrats

Post # 6
7768 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Yeah!  I am a Bradley grad awaiting a Bradley baby arrival.  I cannot recommend the classes enough.  First of all, every mom in our class has or will (babies are arriving weekly from my class) deliver at a hospital.  The best you can do is find a care provider and hositpal that has the values and respect for the choices you want to make.

 IV’s mandatory? Hep-lock ok? 
I will just have a lock on mine- they need to have an IV in your wrist just in case- a direct line already in place.


 How long you can labor for before being induced?
Well, I would never be induced unless it was a life or death emergency for me and baby.


 Can you eat and drink? 
I will sneak it if I have to.


 Fetal monitoring? 
I believe it is intermittently required (provided I remain low risk).  In my birth plan I ask to be monitored by doppler.


 How long will they let you push for? 
It all depends on the circumstances and the provider- but my understanding is that the doctor is there to help you get baby out safely- so I don’t think there is a time limit.


 Are episiotomies routine?
No.  It depends on the situation, and they will ask first, if need be- whether you want to tear (if that is impending) or be cut.


 Laboring and pushing in any/many positions?
I asked my OB and she said “Well yes, of course, sometimes you have to do different things to get that baby out!”


 Any perineal support?  
Not sure what that entails.


 Delayed cord clamping?  
Yes, requested in my birth plan.


 How long do I have to produce the placenta? 
Not sure exactly what you mean- the nurses will push on you and help make that happen.


 Pitocin after birth?  
In my birth plan I requested no shot of pitocin.


 Vitamin K, eye ointments, Hep B, immediate bath?  
I requested to wait until after the first “golden hour” for all procedures so we can do skin to skin- again, stated in my birth plan.

My hospital is very mom and baby bonding friendly- no babies in nursery anymore, promote breastfeeding, and they nurses and OBs have all been great.  I encourage you to take the Bradley classes, they will answer all of your questions and help you have the confidence and support you need!


Post # 7
7768 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

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@beachbride1216:  Oh yes!

OP, I forgot to add- that is something we learned in Bradley- the goal is to labor at home as long as possible because labor tends to slow when you get into that environment. 

Post # 8
887 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

 IV’s mandatory? Hep-lock ok? I had something medically go wrong, so I didn’t have a choice in this one.

 How long you can labor for before being  induced? Again, something medically wrong, so I had to be induced.

 Can you eat and drink? I was allowed ice chips after being induced and a little bit of liquid, just in case I needed a C-section

 Fetal monitoring? This was mandatory in my situation.

 How long will they let you push  for? They only let me push for a certain amount of time, until the baby’s heart rate began dropping and then forceps were used.

 Are episiotomies routine? Not at the hospital I went to, but each doctor is different.

 Laboring and pushing in any/many positions?  Yes– bath tub, birthing ball, walking, etc. By the time I was pushing I had had an epidural administered and couldn’t move.

 Any perineal support? I don’t think so.

 Delayed cord clamping? Not an option at my hospital.

 How long do I have to produce the  placenta? Mine came out right away, so not an issue in my case.

 Pitocin after birth? Can’t remember.

 Vitamin K, eye ointments, Hep B, immediate  bath? These were all delayed, didn’t have baby take a bath in the hospital, had plenty of skin-to-skin with baby immediately following delivery.


My answer really wasn’t helpful— but my point is that things don’t always go as planned. Due to a medical issue, all of my preferences were pretty much thrown out the window in order to keep me and my baby safe. If I were you, I’d set up an additional meeting with your doctor and the hospital in order to let them know your concerns and to understand what facilities they offer (like tubs/birthing ball/etc.). Then type up a birth plan, so that it’s all laid out in an easy to read way for your nurse and your support to help you implement. Good luck and congrats!


Post # 9
1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’m another Bradley mama! So all my answers are the same as

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@Sweethart: .

Another thing I’d recommend is having a doula. They can help advocate for you when you’re in a lot of pain and its easy for you to just give in to the medical staff rather than push the issue.

Post # 11
1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

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@Miss. RubyLove:  You will do great! Reading lots of birth stories really upped my confidence level. Do you plan on taking the classes or just reading the books? We were only going to read the books but my husband is not much of a reader so we went ahead and sprung for the classes. They have been tremendously helpful because he has learned so much about being my coach and advocate during our baby’s birth. I highly highly recommend them 🙂


Post # 12
2651 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church

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@Miss. RubyLove:  Even though your doctor said that it would pretty pointless to write down your birthing plan, I’d write it down anyways to give copies to your mother and husband in case something comes up that they aren’t sure of your wishes for. Also, while in labour you might forget something and having it there to reference for yourself would probably be good too.

ETA: Give it to the doula too if you get one.

Post # 14
7768 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

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@Miss. RubyLove:  That’s great!  I know your DH will appreciate the classes- it will help him be prepared.  It is also nice to be around other soon-to-be parents with a similar mindset and goal.

ETA:  I would still bring your birth plan to your birth.  In Bradley we were told to have a million copies in the hospital bag- and to have them out in triage and as many times as we need to.  The nurses at our hospital do read them, and sometimes they will be like “oh, I’ll take her!” if they are more into a natural birth.  You will likely be out of it and your birth attendants/ coaches can hopefully advocate for you- but what if they forget or something?  Having it on paper might help them too.

Post # 16
7768 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

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@Miss. RubyLove:  I know what you mean.  I had to stay in my hospital at 27-28 weeks because I apparently contracted a uti.  (They had to put me on an IV antibiotic because it was the only safe one during pregnancy!)  I stayed in the birth sweet and was like BFFs will all the nurses.  They were all my age, super nice, had children or were pregnant.  It was such a good experience and they were really supportive.  Of course, there could always be “grumpy/ bad day nurse” out there, but that would just be luck of the draw.  My experience was really good though and it made me feel a lot better.  I have the same concerns- but I think hospitals and residents and OBs and nurses are much more interested in natural birth now and letting a woman do her thing.  (I tell DH- just don’t let them slip me pitocin!  =like they are out to get me or something 🙂

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