- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2015 - Shangri La Boracay and Spa Hotel
I dont know if me posting this is relevant about weddings but I needed to share it with someone.
Getting Married next year 2015 and for the 5 or more years I have been thinking about breast implants. I lost weight as I got ‘happy fat’ and now im a slim size 8UK size 0/2 US size and im 5’2. I got a new job in October 2013 and ive saved enough for a boob job.
I am a small 34A and I barely fill them even before I lost my weight- ive been looking at surgeons for the past week and I want them done on 4th MArch this year 2014!
This is where it goes sour… we were gonna have a DW in 2015 and also a UK wedding (small maximum 20 people only for FI family who is unable to fly to DW) If you read my previous post my FBIL and FSL is unable to fly and of course it is their business why they cant.
But they dont know about us not having a UK Wedding – this idea was FI parents as they thought it would save us money.
So i booked my surgery and my FI said ‘ I am worried they (his family) are gonna think WE canceled the UK wedding to ‘save’ money so you can have your boob job.. bottom line is .. I has been saving since October 2013 and his parents said ‘ dont worry about UK wedding to save money’ this was said this Janary 2014!
We always have to top toe round FBIL and FSIL cause of what they will say which has made my FI feel that he HAS to tell them.. i told them not yet cause they will only judge us and upset the situation so we had an arguement cause he feels hes hiding a dark secret to his famiy..
Yes I agree its a big proceusre and I know its not something I can hide but at the same time its not something I wish to highlight. FI doesnt undestand and he told his mum behind my back and I was upset and he promised me that my FDIL will not know cause FMIL will not mention anything till Im ready.
FMIL was furoius and wanst happy 🙁 🙁 even though its my money ive been svaing for and regardless we was going to have a UK wedding and get them done 🙁
As the FBIL and FSIL was not going to attend the wedding due to her phobia of flying we knew t would cause more tension between the family cause it would seem we tried to make it harder for them as they would HAVE to attend the DW wedding. Its not the case.
My FI told his mum about my boobs job cause he felt he wanted to make sure THey understood this wasnt a ‘last minute decision’
In my opinion.. its my body and I just didnt want to draw attention to my breast just yet.. I wanted to book my surgery.. get used to the idea.. prepare myself of the surgery ( I am really Scared) think about what I was going to tell my work to get the time off . We had a big row and now he wants to call the wedding off cause we argued.
the bottomline is … he needed to tell his Mum cause they are ‘close’ and didnt want to keep anything from her and to ensure she understood the UK wedding fund wasnt going to my boobs.. meaning that meant FI grandparents woulnt attend cause of my boobs… my arguement is that ‘its my body regardless if I didnt show how insecure I was about them it SHOULDNT be shared 🙁 🙁 🙁 untiil I was comforatble…
FMIL wasnt happy btw … she didnt react to it well and now i feel even more insecurie than ever 🙁
Ive canceled my boob surgery cause I now feel paranoid they will be talking … yes it woudl of happened anyway.. but the initial ‘talk about it’ has just made it worse..
How d I deal with this? shall I still go ahead? Future Mum and dad know now .. and the wedding dress i opted for which was a lovely Inbal Dror Dress involved being quite ”breasty’ corset dress fishtail..
Hwo do I deal with wanting my boobs NOw and going ahead with my surgery to getting my surgery and the build up to it knowing I dont feel right about it no more cause their reactions and opinions DO efect my decision….
ALTHOugH my own mother is so supportive my OWN Parent is supportive.. but in my FI family im getting judged financillay and physically….. smethin FI will never ever understand.. whats done is done but how do I over come this.. feel like I have put happiness on hold.. 🙁 🙁 🙁
Do I marry someone that doesnt even respect my wishes? regardless if i told him how insecure i was its somethin that shouldnt be mentioned … till BOTH of us is ok ..