Post # 1
I bought my dress on the weekend and it needs a ton of alterations. From the front it looks like the neckline is just a bit low, so that can be fixed by raising the lace. From the side, however, it looks like my boobs form a shelf underneath my chin (I’m a 40G). VERY unattractive. The woman at the store said it is because of the combination of the type of bra I was wearing plus the cups in the dress, but I’m just not comfortable with not wearing a bra on my wedding day. Apparently the size I tried on is the right one though.
Did anyone else have this problem when their dress came in? Do you think that losing weight might help (even though I rarely lose it in my boobs)? Would letting it out on the sides help? Does anyone know of a bra for plus sized women that is actually quite unsupportive, but it has straps? It’s the exact opposite of what we’d normally be looking for!
I’m very nervous that I made the wrong choice. Any feedback from the larger-busted bees (or anyone, really), would be so helpful!
Post # 3
I would go bra less even though it’s not your first choice, it will fix it.
Or something without underwire/sturdy cups.
Post # 4
Do you have any pictures so we can see what you mean exactly? That would definitely help!
Post # 5
I’m not quite a 40G, but a 34 Dirty Delete and I had the same issue. I bought a sample and had it altered to my shape and cups added. The cups, plus how tight the dress was made my boobs punch me in the eye from the side view.
She snipped one of the cups out and they went down significantly. She is also letting it out a tad on the sides. I’m not wearing a bra or cups because it adds to the push up. I think that if the dress is tight enough, it will be enough to hold the girls up so you wouldn’t have to wear a bra. Here is a photo of it with the cups in. I don’t have one with them out, but I can tell you it looked so much better.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Pictures would make this much easier to comment on– for alterations I’d talk to the seamstress, they can give you a lot better feedback. As for the bra, if you’re looking for less support, why not try braless? Or remove the cups from the dress– if it’s designed for a full figure, which is sounds like it is, you shouldn’t need both.
Losing some weight will likely help because even if your boobs don’t shrink, likely your torso/ribs will, which in turn will lower your boobs slightly.
Post # 7
I’ll see if I can get some pics and post. Thanks for your feedback so far! I’ll see if they can remove the cups from the dress.
Post # 8
I know you say you wouldn’t be comfortable bra-less, but just try it first! I thought the exact same thing and then found myself trying every dress on without a bra because as long as it fits well there should be lots of support there.. honestly, my boobs never looked so good in any bra compared to the dresses! lol
Post # 9
I know this is an old post, but I have the same bust size, and am having the same issue. How did you end up resolving your “boobs to chin” problem? My seamstress does not want to sew in cups, but I am thinking of doing it anyway-did they help you feel secure in your dress? And did you wear a waist cincher or corest or any other type of undergarment?
Post # 10
@kimmyd: I ended up taking the underwire out of a bra, which let the girls fall enough to settle into the cups properly. I did have straps added to my dress though, so I could wear a bra with it.
I ended up not wearing any other kind of undergarment, but in hindsight I wish I had a bit. Something not too restricting or hot – like maybe some tummy control underwear.