Post # 1
Title says it all. Everyday it’s God this, Jesus that, in the bible or my priest says. It’s freaking annoying! He’s an uber-conservative Catholic and while I respect his right to have a set of beliefs and hold firm to them; I don’t want to spend a large chuck of my day hearing about those beliefs.
For instance, yesterday he asked if I was an atheist (figured it out from views I hold about science), I am but lean more towards agnosticism. After that he spent nearly an hour, 60 minutes, going on and on about how he knows for a fact that his god is real, that jesus existed and the bible is truth. WTF? It was like being in Sunday school all over again. It wouldn’t be sooo bad if he didn’t do it WHILE we have patients in the gym and completely neglects them so he can go on his religious spiels.
I work for a private therapy company that has contracts with nursing homes to provide rehab services. The company itself is not religiously affiliated nor is the home in which we are located (it’s acutally run by the local government). Most of our patients aren’t there mentally and don’t pay him any attention but one is and was very uncomfortable during his recent grandstand against abortion. Yes. He made a grandstand against abortion and how we have more rights for animals than the unborn child in the middle of work in front of patients. He’s also proclaimed Ebola to be a god sent punishment for “man’s sins” just like HIV which came from when “1 man and 1 monkey…”, I cut him off there. Again, all that took place while we had patients.
He’s not a horrible boss. He’s actually very easy going if I need a day off or come in late but this is getting on my nerves and starting to become a problem. I don’t want to report him to the Regional Director (his boss) or get him in any trouble with HR. I just want him to tone it down by like 95%. He doesn’t make statements maliciously but seems to be completely unaware of workplace etiquette or when he’s making people uncomfortable. I just don’t know.
Post # 2
uncltredpearl: I think you need to make a complaint to the company. That’s not right and he’s poorly representing your company.
Post # 3
uncltredpearl: That’s very annoying. I went through a similar situation with a former co-worker (thankfully he wasn’t my boss). Nice guy, we actually had a lot in common, but he would not pipe down with the religious stuff in every conversation. Fellow agnostic here btw.
If he’s otherwise a good boss just try your best to ignore it. Let off steam and mock him when you get home. No use stirring the pot if he’s not being a jerk to you.
Post # 4
As someone who is a Christian I do feel it is important to share your faith and beliefs, just as it is for other religions/non-religions. However, there is a time and place. I presume your boss wasnt given his job to continuously drive home his beliefs, it was to do the job required of him, rehab services. Yes, there may be times when it is appropriate to bring it up but it shouldn’t be constantly. When he is at work he should be working. There are some believers who think that unless they are constantly sharing the Good News then they aren’t serving God. Truth is, God would probably prefer your boss to serve Him by doing his job to the best of his ability and showing Gods love to others in practical and thoughtful ways. Maybe someone should say that to him!
Post # 6
I would most definitely go to HR. It is not appropriate to be talking about something so deeply personal in the workplace, especially in front of clients and patients. I don’t really see how if he’s a good guy 80% of the time as a valid reason to not report this. However, as an Atheist I take a firm stand against people who take it upon themselves to preach or attempt to convert others. I think it’s highly inappropriate and taints the good name of other people of faith.
Post # 7
uncltredpearl: Wow, I couldn’t tolerate that. I would have to just quit.
Post # 8
Have you tried just telling him you wish he would respect your beliefs and his religious rantings make you uncomfortable?
Post # 9
I think the issue to complain to HR about is the fact that he’s making your clients uncomfortable. While they may not care that you don’t like his grandstanding, they ought to care that it’s affecting clients.
Post # 10
Have you tried asking him to refrain from the religious talk? If you haven’t, I would ask him first before going to HR. Then if it doesn’t stop, I would go to higher management regarding the matter.
Post # 11
I agree that the first step is to tell him. The next time he starts up with the religious stuff, say firmly, “Boss, discussing your religion during work hours makes me very uncomfortable, and I don’t think it’s appropriate. Please stop.” The second step, if he doesn’t stop, would be to contact HR. But I really think you have to tell him first.
Post # 12
This is potentially creating a discriminatory and hostile work environment. And that’s illegal. Go to HR. If the company is too small to have a formal HR department then go to your boss’ supervisor or to another manager with whom you feel comfortable.
Post # 13
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If he’s a good guy & superb employee otherwise, I would kindly ask him that this religious talk makes you uncomfortable, especially around patients. If you have already attempted this, I would go to HR & let them talk to him.
Post # 14
Thanks ladies. I will ask him first thing Monday morning. We’re actually a pretty good team but I don’t want this to get out of control and we all end up in trouble with HR. He seems like a reasonable man. I’m hoping for the best.
Post # 15
Wow, that is so, so uncool. It’s annoying enough as it is, but that sh*t he’s saying about Ebola and HIV is just so offensive. I would lose it (and I believe in God myself!).
I would start by telling him you’d rather keep religious discussions out of the office. If he persists, you’ll have to go to HR. What he’s doing is not right and needs to stop.