(Closed) My boyfriend asked my parents

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper

I’m a grown woman so my husband knew he needed no ones ‘permission’ other than mine – that said he knew my mum would love to be in on a secret, so a day or two before he proposed he asked her “would you do me the honour of walking your daughter down the isle to marry me”. She was delighted ๐Ÿ™‚

 

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Oh man I remember that day so well. My mom already knew our plans but my dad was a tough one and oblivious to the seriousness of our relationship. I was taking care of a neighbors home and dog across the street for about 45 minutes and my husband decided that was the time he wanted to speak to my dad. He said it took him 10 minutes to muster up the courage to even start a conversation which is sooo not like him. Apparently my dad was very nice and appreciated the conversation. When I came home though they both just kind of stared at me and I didn’t know what to do/say. I got the hint then of what they talked about and I thought it went bad based on their reactions ๐Ÿ˜‚ Glad I was  wrong! 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

If my boyfriend went to my parents and asked them I would laugh in his face. This is such and oldfashioned tradition. I need noones permission to marry a guy I love. The tradition comes from times when daugthers were viewed as their parent’s property.  There is nothing romantic about it.

Sorry if I offended anyone but I am suprised people still do it. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Mississauga Convention Centre

My boyfriend asked my parents for my hand in marriage, 6 months before he asked me. My fiancee my parents and future in laws planned a surprise engagement party for us. It was magical that’s when he proposed to me

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

He asked for my parents blessing (not permission) 2 days beforehand and my mum was so scared of blabbing that she avoided me all the next day haha

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

My Fiance asked for my dad’s blessing a few months before he proposed. He knows my dad is old fashioned and would appreciate the gesture. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee

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ChaiSpice :  My fiancé asked my dad over the phone because he was in tech school for the AF. My dad likes to give him a hard time but secretly loves my fiancé to death. My dad would never say no and it was a formality. No, I am not my parents property but as the “new” man in my life, it was nice for him to ask my dad, the man who raised me. It’s not about “permission” to me. It’s about my father knowing what’s good for me and being involved in the decision.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

My Fiance didn’t have to ask my mom but he did because she wanted to be nice. I didn’t care really, I knew it was coming, he showed me the ring and had me try it on cuz it was custom made. I think I would have been more excited if I didn’t know at all. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee

My fiance went to my father’s grave to ask for a sign of his blessing. He turned around and there stood a fox playing in the grass. He came home, took me into his backyard, got down on one knee and proposed. I had no idea he left to go talk to my father. Every element of my proposal was a surprise! 

 3 weeks before he propsed, we went to the cememtery together, and I asked for a sign that my father was ok. This was the first time we turned around and saw a fox! So, for the fox to be there a second time (a second sign) it really touched my heart. 

I lost my father to lung cancer 5 years prior. The next day we went to the cememtery to tell my father the good news! 

Post # 15
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Helper bee

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ChaiSpice :  Thank you.

 He lost both his parents at a young age and I lost my father when I was 34. We are 39 & 51 now and planning a wedding without our parents is bittersweet for us. I still have my mother who I am so grateful for. When we talked about marriage I mentioned how my father never had a man ask for his daughters hand…and at that momenet he must have been hanging on my every word. I love sharing our story because it makes me feel very loved by my fiance and my father. 

My diamond engagement ring was his mother’s engagement ring. He lost her when he was 9 to Lupus. I’m so honored he gave it to me. He included our parents as much as he possibly could haha!

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