Post # 1
We’ve been dating for two years, but have known each other for four. He is the most amazing guy in the world but when he brought up marriage it scared me. However, he kept talking about how incredible it would and he wants to start a family and all this other stuff and now it’s got me OBSESSED with getting married to him! I’ve already looked at dresses, colors, flowers, EVERYTHING! And now he won’t mention it at all! I didn’t lead on that I really, really want to get married but this is now all I can think about and he isn’t doing anything! He hasn’t brought it up in about two months and I’m going crazy waiting for him to actually propose. I thought he was going to do it on our 2 year anniversary (January 8th) but he didn’t. How can I mention that I’m okay with and really want to get married to him and all this? Whenever he did mention it I never acted like it scared me I just didn’t say anything really about it, was this a huge mistake on my part?!
Post # 3
My boyfriend and I have also known eachother about 4-5 years, dating for almost three now. The same thing happened around the two year mark. Wow… it actually sounds a lot like your story. Anyhow. While I became tunnel visioned, he still likes to think about the future but is not ready to move on yet. I suggest you straight up ask him. Maybe on the ready scale he’s only a 4 of 10. That way, you have an idea how far along he is and you can base yourself on that.
Be honest with how you feel but also realize he might not be ready. He will eventually.
Post # 4
I agree with the PP. I think you should have an honest conversation with him about how you’re feeling, but be understanding that he might not be ready. My Fiance and I had dated for 4.5 years before we got engaged. I was ready to get engaged about 2.5 years into the relationship. He wasn’t ready though. And to be honest, he is worth waiting for! Yes, I know this is easy for me to say because we did get engaged. The waiting part SUCKS. I was driving myself CRAZY for two years! If he isn’t quite ready yet, think of it as a “pre-planning” stage. I had already thought through so many decisions by the time we got engaged!
I really am all for open, honest communication–without pressure. He mentioned it first so at least you know you’re in the same book–if not quite on the same page yet 🙂