(Closed) my boyfriend brought up getting married!

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
645 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My boyfriend and I have also known eachother about 4-5 years, dating for almost three now. The same thing happened around the two year mark. Wow… it actually sounds a lot like your story. Anyhow. While I became tunnel visioned, he still likes to think about the future but is not ready to move on yet. I suggest you straight up ask him. Maybe on the ready scale he’s only a 4 of 10. That way, you have an idea how far along he is and you can base yourself on that. 

Be honest with how you feel but also realize he might not be ready. He will eventually.

Post # 4
1924 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I agree with the PP.  I think you should have an honest conversation with him about how you’re feeling, but be understanding that he might not be ready.  My Fiance and I had dated for 4.5 years before we got engaged.  I was ready to get engaged about 2.5 years into the relationship.  He wasn’t ready though.  And to be honest, he is worth waiting for! Yes, I know this is easy for me to say because we did get engaged.  The waiting part SUCKS.  I was driving myself CRAZY for two years!  If he isn’t quite ready yet, think of it as a “pre-planning” stage.  I had already thought through so many decisions by the time we got engaged!  

I really am all for open, honest communication–without pressure.  He mentioned it first so at least you know you’re in the same book–if not quite on the same page yet 🙂

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